When was the last time you truly spent intentional time on your marriage?
I get it, time, money, other resources….it is hard and a challenge. But ladies…..it is so worth it in the end. Maybe it is a regular date night, finding ways to connect together regularly investing in each other, doing bible study together or perhaps you are ready to take it one step further and learn from couples who have been doing this ‘marriage’ gig for many years.
That is what Family Life’s Weekend to Remember is all about.
My husband and I went to our first Weekend to Remember almost 6 years ago – less than a year after we were married. Now, this being our second marriage, we knew we wanted to make this work and needed the tools and resources to be successful. We had messed up the first time around, for many reasons and wanted to be united in our commitment and do whatever we could do be a true couple, together for God’s purpose.
That weekend changed our perspective on marriage, on our role as a spouse and what ‘oneness’ as a couple truly meant in God’s eyes. It was a weekend filled with practical biblical information on how to build our marriage God’s way.
So when the chance came to go again, 6 years later, we decided to make it happen. We gathered a few other couples who had never been before and set out to grow in our marriage.
We stayed at a lovely hotel that was local to use and had a great room with a view – it was perfect. With 4 kids – we get little time away, so when it can be with a view like this I am one happy mama!
Going to the conference was great, but actually being able to stay overnight in the hotel for TWO nights was pure bliss!
The conference runs from Friday evening until Sunday at noon. It is packed with sessions on communication, learning how we fight and even a session on “marriage after dark.” Yes, it was about SEX.
Our two mentor couples, Bob and Jan Horner and Rick and Judy Taylor had very unique stories and were both very entertaining – which is more fun for everyone! Who needs a boring marriage conference? They shared personal stories which really helped couples identify and made it easier to apply the principles they shared to each of our marriages in real ways.
One of the major projects we did during the weekend was to write a love letter to our spouse. Now, we had done this 6 years ago, but what I found very interesting was that the letters we wrote this time, were very similar to what we wrote previously. We didn’t look at the previous letters until after we did the one for this season, but it was a confirmation to us of what we truly cherished in each other.
We also had our workbooks from 6 years ago and were able to look back at some of the information and what we thought being “newly married” and compared it to what we felt now. It was very thought provoking for sure.
We left the weekend each with specific action points to be intentional with. This is important. You can go to a ton of conferences about marriage or listen to a million podcasts, but unless you choose to make a point to pick certain things to change, nothing does.
One of the biggest take aways I got form this weekend was that my spouse is not perfect, but he is the PERFECT one for me. I need to remember this daily, and be intentional in setting aside my selfish tendencies too.
It is never too late to rekindle a romance, to think differently about your marriage or be willing to change. If you are thinking you need a bit of a ‘tune-up’ in your marriage or maybe a complete overhaul – why not look or a Weekend to Remember conference near where you live?
Family Life is also offering a new one day conference for couples called “I Still do” and may be near your area and fit your schedule too.
Have you ever been to a marriage conference? Did you find it helpful, if so how?