“Kind words are short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless” - Mother Theresa
One of the most valuable things you can do as a parent is to build your child’s self-esteem. Self-esteem is the collection of beliefs or feelings we have about ourselves. How we define or think of ourselves influences our motivations, attitudes, and behaviors and affects our emotional adjustment.
Healthy self-esteem is a child’s armor against the peer pressure and challenges of society.
Kids who feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts, persevering and resisting negative pressures. They tend to smile more readily and enjoy life – isn’t that what you would like for your child?
Patterns of self-esteem start very early in life – beginning when your child is a toddler and develops even more as they get older. You play a major role in this development – as with most things, it all begins in the home.
There are sure-fire ways to increase your child’s self-esteem and when you take the time to focus on the positive things you see in your child, the negative or troubling things begin to fade away.
Simple ways you can build your child’s self-esteem include:
- Appreciating your child
- Tell your child that you love them
- Spend time with your child
- Encouraging your child to make choices – this leads to confidence and independence
- Really listen to your child’s opinion
- Take the time to explain reasons, when it is appropriate
- Feed your child daily with positive encouragement – not general praise, but specific encouragement
- Encourage your child to try new and challenging activities – this builds perseverance
Recently I was introduced to a wonderful tool that makes it much easier for parents to recognize and record the positive things about those they love. The “I like book” for kids as well as the “I like book” for couples are perfect for busy families who do not want to miss the opportunity to capture the positive!
The books are easy to use – broken down by 12 months (you can start anytime) and have an entry available for each parent per day. I love that you can write a short line or phrase for each day and have it as a record to look back on. Wouldn’t it be fun to look back at these 10 years from now? I know it will become a treasure that your child will hold close to their heart!
I am thrilled to share that I was given two of the books to giveaway – one for children and one for spouses. Please leave a comment to enter – share with me one thing you can appreciate about your child today – I can’t wait to read them! Entries close midnight May 17th and will be announced.
You can find out more about the books at www.theilikebook.com . They are offering a discount of 40% when you use the code kids2010 when you register at checkout. Get one at a discount and start investing in your child today!