Confident Moms Raise Confident Kids

20
Dec
2012


As I get ready to kick off the release of my new kindle book, “Become the Confident Mom You’ve Always Wanted to Be,” I thought it would be nice to preface it by sharing why your role as a mom is so critical to your children’s success.  How you view yourself, display your ideals and consistently parent does make a difference and when you are confident in your decisions, well…..it makes all the difference in the world.

Confidence is a crucial part of our lives; as children and adults. Without it, we are left with a low self-esteem; feelings of unworthiness; and vulnerable to the pitfalls life sometimes doles out.

Confident moms raise confident kids and this, above all else, is the very foundation which will determine the future success or failure of your children.

Here are some tips on how you can increase your child’s confidence.

Be a role model for your child

If your self-esteem is high, your child will pick up on that part of you and absorb it.  Keep a positive attitude in everything you do.  Think back to the happiest memories from your childhood, and use it as a catalyst in your own life.  If you become worried or frustrated, avoid outwardly expressing it.  Or if you do, make sure that you show how you solve the problem and create a solution to the frustration.  Negativity in the home is unhealthy, unproductive and creates an uncomfortable environment, especially for children.

Counteract their exposure to the unpleasant things in life by having frequent talks invoking the positive aspects. Help build your children’s self-esteem by giving them certain responsibilities around the home, and rewarding them for a job well done. Give them the freedom to make mistakes and learn from them. Encourage them in anything they wish to achieve, utilizing a positive tone.

Be open to their thoughts and feelings

If they have been confronted with a particular situation, listen and be attentive and comforting. However, try not to tell them what to do but allow them to work it through in their own mind. This will give them the tools they need to learn how to interact with others. It is a crucial step in their development. Allowing them to solve their own problems will boost their confidence immeasurably.

Be sensitive to their needs; don’t brush aside what may seem trivial to you. Remember when you were going through the same phase; be always mindful of it.  The more confidence you display in your life, the more confidence your children will retain in their own lives.

Follow Your Own Parenting Instincts

Most moms have a sixth sense when it comes to parenting. Beginning with the birth of a child, or sometimes before, an immediate instinct; a signal if you will, instantly hones in on the baby’s every need. While there are some who do not have the ability to take on the role of parent; the majority however, do.  The confidence to follow your own parenting instincts is an inherent trait, and one which you need to listen for.

Long before Dr. Spock, whether confident or not, parenting skills were instinctual.  Moms could sense, merely by a child’s cry, what needed to be done.  There weren’t any books or instructions that came with the baby; nor were there any video tapes on how to be a good parent.  What did exist were friends and family members who a mom could reach out to if she felt she couldn’t handle a specific situation.

Today, there are {almost too} many tools available to help moms and dads become good parents.  Is it necessary? Perhaps too much information can contribute to the lack of confidence a parent may have. Instead of relying on their own instincts, they are immediately thrust into the world of information overload.  They feel that they must not know how to care for their child or make the right decision and doubt enters the scene.

In addition, the advice given is sometimes conflicting and confusing, which frustrates the parents even more.  Faced with the many decisions they have to make, parents’ responsibility for the child becomes pressure-packed, thus producing indecisiveness and an inability to cope.

It doesn’t have to be this way.  If you learn to trust your own maternal instincts, you will never be led astray.  Learn to be flexible, and try other methods and approaches when parenting.  Be open to the advice of trusted friends, family and mentors.  While you may think you’re alone, you’re not.

Allowing your confidence to shine through will enable your child to grow up embracing who they are and having you as a great role model to lovingly carry them there!

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  • Shonda

    I am very excited for your book. This is a great article. Thanks for giving me ideas to be confident.

  • http://www.biblicalparenting.info Ed Miller

    Hi Susan! My assistant has been doing some research for me to find people who are blogging about Christian parenting. I’m working my way through the list and your post on Confident Moms Raising Confident Kids caught my attention. It is a great article. We live in a very negative time where people complain and always seem to be trying to find fault. Being confident and positive is one of the best qualities we can model for our kids. Thanks for writing and sharing. I added your blog to my Google Reader and look forward to future posts. – Ed Miller, National Center for Biblical Parenting

  • http://cottagemagpie.com/ Angela @ Cottage Magpie

    Love this post! I’ll definitely be taking some of the advice you have here. Merry Christmas! ~Angela~

  • http://www.theconfidentmom.com Susan

    Thanks for stopping by! {Love your site!!!}