7 Things No One Told You About Motherhood


7 Things No One Told You About Motherhood

I think it’s safe to say that we all had glorious images of what our life would be like once we began having children. For me, I had visions of a clean home, dinner on the table at 6:00pm, and wonderfully behaved children. Well, that bubble was busted early on!

I’ve been doing this motherhood thing for nearly 24 years. Am I an expert? Um, no way! Have I learned some things along the way? You bet. I’ll share a few of those things from my journey through motherhood. As you read them, I think you will be giving a few of them a big Amen!

Yoga Pants for the Win!

There are days – and sometimes days on end – where you can barely make it out of your pajamas and into something that resembles clothes, which we have now all adopted as our beloved yoga pants! They are stretchy, comfortable, easy to wipe off, and usually black (which matches any color top). Moms, we do love our yoga pants!

It’s Really Lonely

No one tells you this, but it is absolutely the truth. Even with strong support systems in place, your days can seem endless. After doing the same thing over and over again, you become almost like a robot. You lose touch with the outside world. It’s really tough.

A Mini Van Will Be Your Dream Car

I can remember the day we brought our new-to-us mini van home. It was glorious for me. I loved the ease of placing my daughter in her car seat and sliding the door closed. My back loved it. My body was in heaven, but my young-at-heart self was almost destroyed. I did enjoy the convenience of the mini van, but to be honest, I am glad I am out of that season!

You’ll Wonder What a Vacation Is

The word vacation will take on a new meaning – truly! Before children you had time away with wonderful meals at fine restaurants, luxurious hotels, and quiet moments. Once children are here, your vacation takes on a new meaning. Typically, you spend more time packing and unpacking than you actually did on your vacation and you need a week after you return home to recover. I know you know what I am talking about! It’s sometimes easier to just stay home.

It’s a Really, REALLY Hard Job

Yep, like someone had to tell you?! When we acknowledge it, I think it takes that power away. I know there are days which we are barely able to make it through. Those days with sick kids, a sick mom, and more bodily fluids than you can even begin to imagine. I know. Even on the days where things seem smooth, it is still exhausting. When you are pouring into the little ones in your life, your body and soul gets weary.

Bathroom Quiet Moments Rock

No one will tell you that the only private moments you will have during the day are when you are locked behind a door taking care of some business. But it’s true. Treasure these few minutes. And yes, I know we’ve all gone into hiding there saying, “We are taking care of business.” But I will tell you when I try to carve out some quiet time, I can find it when I am intentional.

You Will Need JESUS More!

When you’re exhausted – He’ll still be there.

When you’re frustrated and overwhelmed – He’ll still be there.

When you’re in tears on the floor in the bathroom – He’ll still be there.

This has been the most concrete thing for me to remember as I journeyed through my seasons of motherhood. He is there and when we take time to meet with Him, He will show up in all things. Mama – be sure you are reaching out to Him each day so He can meet with you too.

Creating Fireworks in Your Marriage Bed


Creating Fireworks in Your Marriage Bed

Oh yes, I am going there in this blog post! I know this is a topic people want to discuss, but rarely do, so let’s start off our weekend with a little chat, shall we?

I want to start out by saying that I believe God designed intimacy between husband and wife as a gift. It is so incredibly sweet when held in that context.

When the first man and woman were married, He said, “they must become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). The “one flesh” bond includes sexual intimacy and an emotional connection.   

God also wants us ladies to enjoy intimacy. The Bible says, “Husbands and wives should satisfy each other’s sexual needs.” (1 Corinthians 7:3)

However, real life sets in. You know what I mean. Things get busy, stress overcomes our ability to relax, and we are exhausted by the end of the day.

So let’s look at how we can fulfill the 1 Corinthians verse I just mentioned in our own marriages. I recently taught an amazing essential oils class that shared tips and practical essential oil strategies for supporting our bodies in a way to make it easier to find “fireworks” in the marriage bed. It was hugely popular and much needed.

Many times life gets in the way of the intimacy in our marriages – kids, medical concerns, stress, exhaustion, and many other things can stand in our way if we let them. So I am going to share a few key essential oils that are known to help struggles in certain areas. I knew I had to share because I have benefited from these and I want you to as well. Don’t you want fewer excuses and more fireworks in the bedroom?

Progessence Plus 

Young Living Progessence Plus SerumThis is an amazing serum specifically formulated for women and ideal for those women over 30 years old. It features some of Young Living’s most-loved essential oils, including Sacred Frankincense and Peppermint, to create a serum that perfectly pampers you.

I use this serum each evening and I have noticed my moodiness decrease, my overall monthly cycle feels less than noticeable rather than disrupting everything, and I am just plain nicer!

Wild yam extract and vitamin E support your skin in looking its best, while Frankincense smooths the look of fine lines. Keep your skin looking as young as you feel and add a few drops to your moisturizer or massage it directly onto your skin.

There are many amazing benefits to this serum, as it helps add a balance to our “see-saw” moods and is great for our oversell wellness and to increase our desire for intimacy. I use 2-5 drops a day on my ankle. It is a game changer!


EndoFlex Essential OilEndoFlex is a blend that supports our endocrine system. The endocrine system is what tells your body what hormones to produce and when. The endocrine system regulates metabolism, growth and development, tissue function, sexual function, reproduction, sleep, and mood.

I use this oil each morning and roll it on my spine just below my bra line. It certainly helps support great energy levels – which means I may have energy left at the end of the day to be intimate.

Ylang Ylang

Ylang Ylang Essential OilYlang Ylang has long been known as an aphrodisiac. It is awesome for supporting libido in women, and men seem to respond to the scent positively too. (I can vouch YES for that!)

This oil may increase feelings of happiness, adoration, and it calms the mind. It is amazing in the diffuser, as well as used topically alone, or mixed with other oils like Cypress.

Idaho Blue Spruce

Idaho Blue Spruce Essential OilIdaho Blue Spruce is primarily an oil used for your man!

This remarkable essential oil contains high percentages of alpha-pinene and limonene and has a pleasing and relaxing evergreen aroma.

Daily use of this oil topically will help support healthy testosterone levels – and you want your man to have healthy levels! You can also use this with coconut oil as a lubricant (ladies, you may feel it as a slight cooling feeling for you!).


Goldenrod Essential OilGoldenrod helps to support the circulatory system. As the name suggests, Goldenrod can be used on, well, I am trying to keep this post so it won’t get flagged as the “bad” kind of post – so hopefully you can think of what supporting the circulatory system and your man and blood flow have in common.

I have no personal experience with this oil, but let’s just say when it comes back into stock it is quickly grabbed.

Light the Fire Personal Lubricant

I want to tell you to RUN to make this. If you don’t have the supplies, GO ORDER THEM NOW! This gem will certainly bring some fabulous new heights to your marriage bed – safe, all-natural, and extremely helpful for both you and your hubby! Just use the quantity indicated and mix and it’s ready to use!

Light the Fire Personal Lubricant

You probably had no idea that not only are using essential oils great for keeping your immune system running smoothly, supporting your health, keeping you energized, balanced, and thriving emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually – but they are good to help your marriage too!

If this is the time for you to get started with Young Living, I’d love to have you join my community. You will get so much support helping you along the way. I never want anyone to feel overwhelmed or like they don’t have someone to reach out to. Our community has over 4,000 people right now, so you’ll definitely find some new oily friends!

Get Started with Essential Oils

If you are looking for even more information on firing things up in your bedroom and supporting all areas of your body, I highly suggest you pick up a copy of, A Girlfriend’s Guide to Using Essential Oils Between the Sheets by Lucy Libido. It’s a good one!

Praying Over Your Children’s Education


Praying Over Your Children's Education

It’s a difficult world for our children to navigate these days. It’s easy to be worried when they leave the safety of your home to go to school.

What are they being taught?

Who have they chosen as friends?

Is their time at school bringing them closer to God or further from Him?

There’s a lot to consider (aka. stress over!).

Whether you homeschool your children or send them to a private or public school, one thing I’m sure of is this – we, as parents, have all been called to pray for our children, and that includes their education.

What to Pray for Your Children’s Education

I admit – I have not been a very active prayer warrior for my children, but it doesn’t mean that I should just give up, right? We are all works in progress and I know that praying and asking for guidance is what I need to do. As I’ve been examining my prayer life, I can see some great steps to take to being praying for my children’s education – not just my younger ones, but the older ones in college too!

Pray for Their Teachers

Pray for guidance on how to communicate with and bless their teachers. Pray that your children’s teachers would see them the way God sees them.

Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field. – Matthew 9:38

Pray for Their Peers

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. – Proverbs 27:17

Pray for Their Administrators and School Board

But select capable men from all the people – men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gain  – and appoint them as officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens. – Exodus 18:21

Pray That They Would Make Good Choices in the Face of Peer Pressure

I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being. – Ephesians 3:16

Being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience. – Colossians 1:11

Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. – Matthew 26:41

Pray That They Would Be a Good Friend and Kind to All

Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. – Galatians 6:10

Pray for Their Focus and That They’d Be Hard Workers

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. – Colossians 3:23

Pray for God’s Favor and Blessing for Their School

For I will pour water on the thirsty land, and streams on the dry ground; I will pour out my Spirit on your offspring, and my blessing on your descendants. – Isaiah 44:3

I will make them and the places surrounding my hill a blessing. I will send down showers in season; there will be showers of blessing. – Ezekiel 34:26

Pray for Everyone’s Health and Safety

Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones. – Proverbs 3:7-8

I am planning to pick one or two of these scriptures to pray daily and then rotate back through. Simple, intentional words to cover my children. This I can do!

I loved this creative printable of Back to School Prayers from Happy Home Fairy too – perhaps you saw it? I have printed this out and have it on our refrigerator so I can easily pray as I am going through my day too.

Sadness and Unexplained Joy Mixed Together


Sadness and Unexplained Joy All Mixed Together

Change and transition – that can sum up the past three weeks of life for our family. If you’ve been following along here on the blog or on my Confident Mom Facebook page, you know we just completed our transitional move from Seattle to the Washington Coast. {If you need to catch up, this post will get you up to speed on our life of simplifying and living our dream now.}

Phase One – complete!

Phase one consisted of finalizing the sale of our home outside Seattle, selling 80% of our personal belongings, and packing what remained for the movers to take. We completed one roundtrip with fragile belongings and then stayed in a hotel for five days because our home in Seabrook was rented for Labor Day weekend. We finally arrived Sunday afternoon and began unpacking the limited items we need for our one-month stay in Coastal Haven, our cozy carriage house. {By the way, if you are near the Seattle area and come to Seabrook, you can stay in our sweet carriage house too – just not while we are living in it! Here is the vacation rental page.)

We will remain here for one month and then move to another home we are renting for a year to determine if this move is truly the right direction for our family before we build our main home on the lot in front of our carriage house. I know, it does sound confusing!

What has this week brought? Emotions I did not expect.

Sadness and unexplained joy – all combined together. Exhilaration that we are finally doing this and living our dream and also unsettled nerves because things are new and different. I am sure for those who have moved to new towns and homes, you know what I am talking about.

I have had to step back and let myself cry, weep, and sit. As one who struggled immensely with emotional support for years, this is a bit unusual to do, a bit foreign even though it’s totally normal and I need to give myself permission to just be.

New experiences have been around each corner.

A new school, unpacking into only 700 square feet, walks on or along the beach each morning, evening strolls, waiting for the sunset to close our day, visiting with new neighbors, focusing on slowing down and allowing the climate here to swallow me up – this is what I imagined, a slowness and peace that my soul needed.

So there you go, that’s what’s been happening here – the life I imagined is blossoming. I am truly blessed and grateful for all that has happened to allow this shift to take place. For so long we played it safe and just kept doing what we thought we were supposed to do, but I love that we are stepping out, trying something different, and following God’s lead.

I encourage you – evaluate your life. It’s never too late and nothing is ever impossible! EVER! Living here in this community was something I truly didn’t believe would happen, but God knew my heart’s desire and He provided two work at home jobs, providing a source of income so that we could realistically make a transition like this. It has provided freedom – selling our home in Seattle and reducing our lifestyle to find something less.  

Often times when you reduce and have less, you truly have more. I am beginning to experience that. My soul is learning to slow down, to experience the cool breeze that blows, the sun that glitters off the waves – where I can take time to really see it, to feel it inside my soul.

I also spent the past two weeks reading Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. This book helped me see what I was missing and what was just waiting for me on the other side of this move. Ditching the frantic lifestyle for the calm and purposeful. It was a life saver, literally – it came just like a life boat at the time I needed it. Drawing me into a place to identify the areas that needed to be shifted and how I could do that. I highly suggest this book – no matter your season of life, just go get it now!

Now I am off to get outside and breath in the salty air and walk my dogs. This is what the beach life is about. Enjoy the moments!  

Thank you to all who were praying during our move. I am so very grateful!

(Sidenote – we did have this incredible Garlic Butter Baked Salmond in Foil our first night and it was the perfect meal!)

Insanely Yummy #21DSD Chocolate Energizing Shake


Insanely Yummy #21DSD Chocolate Energizing Shake

Oh my word – I can’t believe I haven’t shared this recipe with you all sooner! I apologize now, because once you begin to add this to your daily routine, you will see why I love it so much.

I recently completed my second round of the popular 21 Day Sugar Detox program and this shake was part of my success. The thought of eliminating the sugar from my diet seemed impossible, but I have done it without losing my mind.

I like chocolate and I need quick and easy food. This powerful breakfast shake has become an integral part of my most productive days.

Insanely Yummy #21DSD Chocolate Energizing Shake Recipe

  • 1 cup crushed ice
  • 1 cup almond milk (be sure to get a brand that does not have carrageenan)
  • 1 scoop unsweetened protein powder (I use this)
  • 2 Tablespoons organic cacao powder (I use this)
  • 1 teaspoon organic maca powder (I use this)
  • 1/2 teaspoon organic cinnamon (I use this)
  • 1/3 cup organic pumpkin puree (I use this)
  • 1/2 teaspoon organic vanilla flavoring (I use this)
  • 1 green tipped banana

Add all of the ingredients to your blender. Turn it on for 30 seconds and ENJOY!

Insanely Yummy #21DSD Chocolate Energizing Shake Recipe

It may take your taste buds a bit to get use to this less sweet version of a shake, but it is so satisfying and packed full of food our body can really use. Sometimes I use 1/2 cup of brewed coffee that has been cooled too. Feel free to change it up a bit to meet your taste – just NO SUGAR!

A Couple Notes About the Ingredients

I recently discovered maca powder. Check it out. Maca powder has been shown to support healthy hormone levels, enhance vitality, and sustain natural energy levels. It also promotes a radiant complexion and glowing skin. It is packed full of minerals, fatty acids, and plant sterols which offer a wide range of benefits for your body. I have noticed a difference on the days I do not start my day with a shake. I definitely have seen an increase in energy, focus, and motivation!

Pumpkin puree is a great source of fiber, rich in iron, and a great source of Vitamin A which in turn is great for your eyes. It is a low calorie source of a great punch for the body.

I have lost five pounds in my second round of the #21DSD. My taste buds have changed. My body has changed. I have more energy and less inflammation. I wake up feeling ready for the day. I especially love knowing I am reducing the risk of illness from the food I choose to eat. I dare you to do any research about what sugar does to your body and how it is hidden in everything. I am thankful to have education and knowledge. That is power for helping us be the best we can be!

Now, go enjoy this fabulous shake recipe and comment when you have. You will want to share it with everyone! Have you done a round of the #21DSD before? Did you have a favorite recipe?

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