Reflecting on God Weaving My Story



I have been at a loss about what to post today – for several days my mind was blank except for one topic.  

Foster care and adoption

I’ve shared my heart and my story a bit here on the blog in hopes of opening up the eyes of everyone – to find that little spot where you can make a difference in someone’s life.  I have said it before and I will continue to say it….. not everyone is meant to adopt or even do foster care, but there is always somewhere you can lend a hand – there is a need to fill.

As for everyone, this time of year is busy.  I wanted to slow down this season and focus more on the important…. I am trying, but it is still a work in progress.  I’ve been a bit under the weather and keeping up with regular tasks in addition to the extra things that come with the holidays has taken it’s toll.  I have been hearing a whisper in my ear to remember this season and what happened to us four years ago.

You see, four years ago during this time we were introduced to a precious little boy looking for a forever home.  My life was thrown a curve ball and it was, as I reflect, one of the most treasured times that I can remember – with it being Christmas.  


As I look over some photos of when Jacob first arrived in our home, tears form and I began to not only remember but FEEL that time, deeply.   (I managed to dig up a few, sorry they are a bit blurry).  Sometimes we really need to take the time to let our hearts open back up and feel.  I can be really good at stuffing things, thus not allowing good or bad to flow out or in.  It is something God is working with me on.

I remember getting to know this 12 month old little boy, playing with him on the floor, adjusting to his behaviors which were a little different than what I was used to, listening to Christmas music in the background and eventually helping him transition into our home full time.  I would never in a million years imagined I would become the mom of a little 12 month old.  I had no idea what God still needed to develop in my life, and still don’t.

I shared the complete story in a blog post and you can read that if you missed it before.  God weaving an amazing story that I often take for granted and unfortunately forget.

As a mom who has older kids, this time of year can honestly get a bit more tedious than joyous.  I hate to admit that, but I am.  The chore of decorating for some reason this year has become overwhelming….. I am thankful for a husband who is willing to push ahead when I am worn out.

So I truly believe that God is whispering into my ear to slow down, focus on what it was like four years ago.   The wonderment of a new person entering our life, the incredible grace of our God to bless me with this little boy who challenges me everyday to be more of who God wants me to be.  

I need to reflect…. to slow down…. to remember.  God is trying to weave my story even more with His influence and amazing grace, if I just listen and respond.

Is God trying to whisper in your ear – are you ready to listen?  Or are you like me and being a bit stubborn?  

How can you take some time to allow His voice to be heard in all the busy and overwhelm?

12 Homemade {DIY} Gifts With Essential Oils



It’s that time of year to begin thinking about gift giving – unless you are an early bird and have all your shopping done!  I often do, but this year I have fallen behind schedule more than I care to admit.

So if you are like me and want to be frugal in your gift giving but really share something that can be helpful to a friend or loved one, I know you are gonna love this post with some homemade gifts using essential oils.  You know I am not a big DIY’er and really stretch myself when I do, but I have found when I take the time to make gifts myself they mean more to me and I know are loved by those receiving.

When you add therapeutic grade essential oils to homemade recipes you are truly adding ‘drops of love’ into your gift.  

I can’t wait to try some of these recipes!!


Bath Bombs


Peppermint Twist Face & Body Scrub


Men’s Shaving Cream


Homemade Body Butter


Lime and Mint Foot Scrub


Scented Room Spray


Peppermint Cocoa Lip Balm


Detox Bath in a Jar


Foaming Hand Soap


Mason Jar Oil Candles


Moisturizing Body Wash


Lavender Linen Spray

I use and recommend only Young Living essential oils . All of these recipes can be made using Young Living essential oils and I plan to doing just that!  :-)

If you would like to read the other posts I’ve shared on how I use essential oils in my home with my family and how you can get your own essential oils, click here!  I have a great BONUS for those who join in December… truly the BEST one I’ve ever offered.


Do you have a favorite DIY gift idea that is made with essential oils?  I would love to add to the list!

Keeping it Simple this Holiday Season



I am coming to all of you – making a vow, that I will try to keep things simple this Christmas season.  I have never really been one of those moms who goes all out – but I do admit, I use to be kinda a “Martha Stewart” kinda mom and wife.  But no more.

There is a lot to be said for doing things in a small way.  Keeping perspective and the real treasure of the season in mind.  I wrote about Rediscovering the Joy at Christmas Time a couple years back, it was a good review for me today.

It can become easy to want to make more, give more and do more with each year – but for me, I am looking at doing less but having it mean more.  Does that resonate with anyone else?  I am tired of over-stretching, over-doing and losing focus.

So, as I gather myself together and begin to plan my next three weeks, I wanted to share with you my goals for enjoying the season, SIMPLY – perhaps it might help you too?

Morning quiet

I do fairly well in this area, but lately my to-do list has challenged me to get started earlier, so I “decide” to give up my quiet time to get started just a bit sooner on that all important list.  Wrong choice.  Or the past few days I have just slept in because I’ve been tired and fighting the beginning of a cold.  Thank goodness for my essential oils to help my body heal itself!!

I need this connection time with the ONE who gives me strength to get through my day.  I especially need this connection as I remember My Savior during this advent season.  

Doing Less

I think we can all agree we need more margin in our life, even more so during this busy holiday season.  Why on earth do we have to preface it always with “busy holiday season”?  We are busy, busy, busy – parties, shopping, cooking, baking, visiting, wrapping, and more.  It has become an epidemic.  I want to be choosy with how I spend my time – really purposeful in how I manage my time.  I know there are certain things that NEED to get done, but most of the other stuff is negotiable and even not important.

Creating Home Memories

I love being at home – LOVE IT!  I especially enjoy creating memories with my family that can be carried on.  As my kids are getting older, I have one nearly 22 and another a couple days from 18, (and two other younger ones) it is time to do things that really matter.  My time has run out, so they say.  Baking one batch of Christmas Cookies, rather than doing 12 batches.  Watching ONE key Christmas movie instead of five – finding joy together in the small things that aren’t money driven.  That is what I want this year.

No Fancy

I have become much more aware of keeping things simple.  On my decorations, on meals, gifts and such. I am not a big fancy person, I just do not find the same joy in all that I did years ago.  Simple decorations, simple food, simple dress, all that makes me happy.   I like to do an advent with the family, we’ve done Truth in the Tinsel before and loved it, this year we are doing really simple, a box filled with drawers to pull a candy out and read a portion of scripture.  Simple.


I want to consistently be brought back to the season that we are celebrating.  Not overwhelmed with the stuff that needs to be accomplished.  I am the worst at deducting from my schedule, but once again, I want to make an attempt and scaling back and being present more. 

Will you join me?

Welcoming a New Puppy!



We are a dog family.  And to take it two steps further we are a two dog family.  :-)

I grew up with dogs but never really considered myself a dog person, until we got our first dog after I was married 7 years ago.  We brought Molly, a Goldendoodle into our house and with it a lot of joy into our life.  

A few years later we got another puppy, Riley and unfortunately he had some medical issues that just were beyond what we could care for. You can read his amazing story here, grab some tissues, but it ends all good!!

It has taken me a year to grieve the loss of our Riley dog.  I know he is being well cared for and loved even more than I can imagine, but my heart still misses him.  I used a lot of essential oils to help me through the emotional up and downs, as well as just talking about his wonderful sweet soul.  He was such a good dog, and finally…. finally… I can talk about him without bursting out in tears and sobbing.

We’ve known we would eventually get a new dog to join our family and it so happened the logistics of it developed quickly.  We called some breeders on Halloween, chose a puppy the same day and picked him up to bring him home on November 11th.  

The timing was perfect, as my hubby is home for the entire month on vacation, so we are able to put in the ‘over-time’ needed when you are puppy training.

So without further ado….. here is Milo, our newest member of the family.

Here we are taking him home – not all of our kids could join in the pick-up, but they were home waiting when we arrived!


He is an Australian Labradoodle and will grow to be about 45-50 pounds.  Our family loves the ‘doodle’ mixes and this was a good fit for us this time around.  

I am not interested in starting a debate or argument for shelter dogs versus dogs from breeders, so please do not begin that here.  This route was the right decision for our family and that is the most important thing to consider.  When getting any dog you need to make the best decision for your family.

So enjoy some fun photos of our new guy and the silly puppy stage.  And you know where I will be, as his little goofiness has captured my heart!

Maybe I will share a top 10 post on new puppy tips soon, I would sure have it fresh in my mind.

He has to get the very last drop of food and the only way he seems to be able to do this is to hug his bowl!


Puppy’s sleep a lot!


Making a Difference with Compassion



I was thrilled to open three letters this week – all from the compassion girls we sponsor here on The Confident Mom, with your support through making amazon affiliate purchases.  I can hardly believe that we are ready to take on another sponsor child!!  WOO HOO!

For those who are not familiar, a few months backs I felt the urge to allow this blog to make a difference in another way by providing support for a sponsorship of a Compassion child.  I attended the Hearts at Home Conference back in March and it all began there.  Our first girl from India, Shine.

As I shared that challenge to use the amazon affiliate link when shopping on amazon, our amount earned each month grew – in just a short time we were able to add two more girls to the sponsorship!


Well, I have exciting news again…… you all have AMAZED ME – and we are at the point where we can add another Compassion Sponsorship to The Confident Mom’s little “global family”.


Judith Sheeba

She is from the same area in India as the other girls, which is really a blessing.  She is sixteen and her birthday is in March.  As soon as I learn more about her I will be sure to pass it on.  So excited to be sharing more blessing with this village!

It is the season where people tend to do even more online shopping (or is that just me??  I hate going to the mall!!)  So in your regular purchasing or gift giving, when you are looking to shop on amazon if you would take a minute and click through this link or the graphic on my homepage, you will hep add to this amount and be helping sponsor these girls.  It is amazing how we can all help and make a difference with just a few addd seconds of our time.

Purchasing using this link does not cost you any more, it does not add anything to the price of the items you are already purchasing, but it does have the impact to make a much larger impact in the world.  I know these girls are thrilled to have you sponsoring them.

Here is the update on our girls:


Reading books, playing football and playing hide and seek are her favorite things to do.  She recently had a birthday and we were able to send a birthday gift amount and she purchased a “trolly-bag” and NIV Bible and some chocolates.  (That sounds like a perfect gift to me!!)


Her school recently had a sports day where they had many events to participate in and also danced.  She also had a birthday recently and was able to purchase 2 sets of slippers, a hand bag, a pouch and some chocolates.  (hmmm…. I see a trend!)  She also sent a beautiful picture on the back of her letter.


She was sharing how her cousin recently had gotten married and had a baby, which she sounded excited about.  Her favorite Bible verse if Psalm 91 –  (love that!!)  She shared a bit about the sports day as well, which is fun….all three of the girls to know each other.  There was also a nice drawing on her letter too.


Thank you so much for taking the time to use the amazon affiliate link so we can bless these families on the other side of the world.  It is amazing how we can each do a little bit to make a bigger impact!

If your family is interested in sponsoring your own family, here is information to make it quick and easy.  I  know you will find it just as rewarding.