Weekend to Remember



When was the last time you truly spent intentional time on your marriage?

I get it, time, money, other resources….it is hard and a challenge.  But ladies…..it is so worth it in the end.  Maybe it is a regular date night, finding ways to connect together regularly investing in each other, doing bible study together or perhaps you are ready to take it one step further and learn from couples who have been doing this ‘marriage’ gig for many years.

That is what Family Life’s Weekend to Remember is all about.


My husband and I went to our first Weekend to Remember almost 6 years ago – less than a year after we were married.  Now, this being our second marriage, we knew we wanted to make this work and needed the tools and resources to be successful.  We had messed up the first time around, for many reasons and wanted to be united in our commitment and do whatever we could do be a true couple, together for God’s purpose.

That weekend changed our perspective on marriage, on our role as a spouse and what ‘oneness’ as a couple truly meant in God’s eyes.  It was a weekend filled with practical biblical information on how to build our marriage God’s way.

So when the chance came to go again, 6 years later, we decided to make it happen.  We gathered a few other couples who had never been before and set out to grow in our marriage.

We stayed at a lovely hotel that was local to use and had a great room with a view – it was perfect.  With 4 kids – we get little time away, so when it can be with a view like this I am one happy mama!  


Going to the conference was great, but actually being able to stay overnight in the hotel for TWO nights was pure bliss!

The conference runs from Friday evening until Sunday at noon.  It is packed with sessions on communication, learning how we fight and even a session on “marriage after dark.”  Yes, it was about SEX.


Our two mentor couples, Bob and Jan Horner and Rick and Judy Taylor had very unique stories and were both very entertaining – which is more fun for everyone!  Who needs a boring marriage conference?  They shared personal stories which really helped couples identify and made it easier to apply the principles they shared to each of our marriages in real ways.

One of the major projects we did during the weekend was to write a love letter to our spouse.  Now, we had done this 6 years ago, but what I found very interesting was that the letters we wrote this time, were very similar to what we wrote previously.  We didn’t look at the previous letters until after we did the one for this season, but it was a confirmation to us of what we truly cherished in each other.

We also had our workbooks from 6 years ago and were able to look back at some of the information and what we thought being “newly married” and compared it to what we felt now.  It was very thought provoking for sure.


We left the weekend each with specific action points to be intentional with.  This is important.  You can go to a ton of conferences about marriage or listen to a million podcasts, but unless you choose to make a point to pick certain things to change, nothing does.

One of the biggest take aways I got form this weekend was that my spouse is not perfect, but he is the PERFECT one for me.  I need to remember this daily, and be intentional in setting aside my selfish tendencies too.  

It is never too late to rekindle a romance, to think differently about your marriage or be willing to change.  If you are thinking you need a bit of a ‘tune-up’ in your marriage or maybe a complete overhaul – why not look or a Weekend to Remember conference near where you live?


Family Life is also offering a new one day conference for couples called “I Still do” and may be near your area and fit your schedule too.

Have you ever been to a marriage conference?  Did you find it helpful, if so how?

It’s a Wrap and a Surprise!!



So, we’ve come to the end of the books study, No More Perfect Moms – I love happy endings, but they are also sad.  I know from conversations on the Facebook page that you’ve seen growth, identified areas that God wants to show you and realized that we do not need to be perfect in ANY area – God is not asking that of us.

I hope you will hold onto this book and read it each year, refreshing your mind with truth and what is important.  Keeping your mind aligned with what you know to be powerful and real.  I will be doing the same.  Even though this is the second time I’ve read through the book, I still gleaned a lot!

So I have a surprise for you too, some may have already seen it on the FB page, but most have not – that silly Facebook is not showing anyone any updates!!  But, before I share that with you, I thought it would be fun to watch the blooper video that was put together from all the takes done to create the wonderful videos for the study.

If you are reading this in your ‘in-box” you will need to click through to the blog to watch - 


And now, for my other surprise…..

The Confident Mom is now sponsoring a child through Compassion!!!

Here is I was at the Hearts at Home Conference right after I signed up to be Shine’s sponsor – I was pretty darn excited about that!

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I am pleased to introduce to you Shine Eirene Andrap, who is 8 years old and lives on the plains of the Dohnavur in India.  I am pretty darn excited and feel this is one way we can unite together to share God’s love.


{Isn’t she gorgeous!!????}  

I felt my heart tug when I sat watching Jill Savage share about actually meeting her Compassion child in a video segment at the Hearts at Home Conference.  It was very touching.  After the segment, they began passing brochures that had children available for sponsorship, you’ve probably been to a concert or event where they’ve done this, you know how it goes.  When the stack came to me, I was really pulled to look through the pile, and now I know why.

Our family personally sponsors children and have over the years, but it came to me that it would be a great community feeling to share in the sponsorship of a child through my blog.  It was like a light bulb went on for me.

I was almost taken back when I began looking through the stack given to our row to review….they were all children from India.  My heart skipped.  I have a huge heart for India which began back when I was in high school.  I was selected to go on an international adventure to a Girl Guide House in Pune, India when I was a Senior in High School.  I was in India when Indira Ghandi was assassinated, back in October of 1984.  It was pretty incredible to be there while such an emotional event impacted the country.

Several years later I went back to India through an opportunity with the YMCA to attend a Leadership event in Hyderbad, India.  I experienced even more of the country and loved every minute.  There started my love of a country that was very different and very far from my home.

A few months back I was offered the chance to review a movie, Mother India about the overwhelming orphan population in India and I shared about it here on the blog.  It touched my heart deeply.  There is something magical about this country, so very far away that ignites something inside me.

So, when the packets being distributed in our row where of children living in India, I knew…… this was a calling.  An opportunity.  I looked through and picked a little girl who I thought was just adorable…..Shine.  How perfect!

I have yet to write her my introductory letter, but will be soon.  I am excited to share with her that it is not only me sponsoring her, but thousands of other ‘mamas’ from all over the world.  I am thrilled to use this blog as an avenue to make a difference to you, but also to a little girl half-way across the world.

You have often seen me post links to amazon products or books – well, you also likely know when I do I make a small commission on those purchases.  Every time you click and make a purchase, even if it is not the product you clicked through on, this blog gets a bit of changeto make a change.  

Here is my heart and my goal – this may be just the start, but I hope to grow sponsorship to more than one little girl.  If the amazon commissions generate enough money to sponsor more than one child on a consistent basis, then guess what?  We will do another!  If it goes beyond that….then we will do another!

I will be creating a graphic button that will appear on my home page on the right side bar with Shine’s picture that will link right to amazon.  If you are shopping online and can remember to click over to The Confident Mom first before placing your amazon order, then you will be adding to that fund!  It will cost you nothing more than a few seconds to do a few extra clicks.

I am excited to share and see where this challenge takes us!!  Know you can make a difference in the life of a little girl and perhaps another as we move ahead with this journey – pray for Shine when you remember, ask God to bless her and her family, to shower her with His love.

We can do this – YES we can!

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The Greatest Gift of All Is Jesus



With all the busyness of the holiday season and its emphasis on gift giving and gift buying, it’s all too easy to forget that Jesus is the greatest gift from the Father.

James 1:17 says “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights.”

Jesus is the long awaited Savior, who was prophesied to come in the book of Genesis, when God told the serpent that He would put enmity between it and the seed of the woman. While the serpent would strike His heel (by His crucifixion) ultimately Jesus would crush his head (when He was resurrected).

Because of Jesus’ death and resurrection…

We are children of God.
He calls us His friends.
We have been justified.
We have been bought with a price and belong to God.
We are members of the Body of Christ.
We are chosen by God and adopted as His children.
We have been redeemed and forgiven of all our sins.
We are overcomers.
We receive eternal life!

Knowing these truths should cause us to rejoice no matter what the circumstances of the holiday may hold. The expectations of a perfect holiday can be overwhelming to fulfill. In a fallen world, no Christmas will ever be perfect. Until Jesus returns, there will be struggles with finances, sicknesses and death.

Let’s give thanks to our Lord and Savior for His incomprehensible gift of redemption. We can honor Him throughout the year by loving each other, reaching out to the poor in spirit in His name, and remembering His death.

I pray your family has a Blessed Christmas celebration – May His presence be felt in your home!


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God Is Always With You – Emmanuel



For many, this time of the year can be full of heartbreak, loneliness and feelings of loss. 

There are times when you may feel as if you are alone. I know, even as a busy mom running around caring for my family, there are times I can feel very alone.  It is funny, even though my ministry is to thousands of woman all over the world, I can still feel alone and forgotten.  In the midst of chaos with 5 people running around inside our four walls, we can still feel alone.  It  happens to many people.  Maybe you are experiencing feelings of loneliness this season?

When I begin to feel very small and alone, I have to run to my Bible and grasp hold of the real truth.  Not the ‘feelings’ that I may be experiencing, but the real truth that God whispers into my ears, when I allow Him near.  It is usually when I may have gone a few more days than I should being away from His word that these feelings creep in.  

Is it time for you to get new Hope from His word?

…and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”  Matthew 28:30 NIV

In Matthew 28:20, Jesus, tells us that He is with us always, even to the ends of the World. That means that He never leaves you! Why would He. He loves you with an unconditional love and knows that for Him to leave you would be like throwing you into a dangerous pit.

The Bible is full of scriptures that remind us that God is always there for us.

“I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.” Genesis 28:15 NIV

That means that whatever God has for you, He is there to help you finish it to completion. All it takes is for you to believe and receive!

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lordyour God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”   Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV

Simply put, God is right there for you and He will never let you down. We let ourselves down when we place false hopes and dreams in the midst of the path God has for us.

God has a specific plan set for each one of us. When we don’t follow the plan, it may appear that He is not there. However, even in the midst of the mess we create, there is God making a way out of what seems to be no way.

No matter what you may feel, the fact remains that God is right there with you, through it all! There is nothing that man can do that will cause God to turn from you when you are obedient to His Word and call on your life.

Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said,

“Never will I leave you;  never will I forsake you.”  So we say with confidence,  ”The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.  What can mere mortals do to me?”  Hebrews 13:5-6 NIV

Following God may seem like a lonely road and in terms of people sometimes it is. However, in terms of a Father who has more love for you than the world over, it is never true. He will never leave you nor forsake you.

Lastly, my favorite verse and one that I have memorized to keep close to my heart….

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”  Romans 15:13  NIV

I pray these verses will give you some comfort, write one down and keep it close by.  Remembering He is always with us.  


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The God Puzzle – Review



I was given a free copy of The God Puzzle for my honest review, which you will find below.

I don’t know about you, but I often feel I am lacking with providing enough biblical teaching at home.  It seems the days are short and I have trouble fitting it in.  I can display character and teach by my actions, but when it comes to truly teaching and answering questions I come up blank – often.

The God Puzzle:  How the Bible fits together to reveal God as Your Greatest Treasure by Valerie Ackermann is just what this busy mom needs.  It is a built in lesson plan for a mom who does not homeschool and is as far away from that as is possible!

The God Puzzle is a colorful, easy to use resource that easily helps communicate to your child the rich truths about God, His ways, His will and His love.  I cannot wait until my 4 year old is a bit older and I can begin using these worksheets and lessons to fill him up.  The book is focused for kids ages 7-12, so this will be staying right on my shelf and hopefully we will check it out along the way, it’s too good to just leave it there for 3 more years!

When I looked through it I loved what I saw – the book enables you to give your kids simple, clear answers to their endless questions – and the ones I often do not have answers for!  I was impressed by the presentation of the lessons as well as the  way they are presented.

The God Puzzle will help you address doctrinal themes of the Christian faith in a kid friendly way, present Bible lessons in an interactive way that will hold the child’s attention and deliver quality teaching with no preparation needed. 75% of children leave the church when they leave home, that hurts my heart.  Something isn’t working. Sunday School isn’t doing it all. Kids need answers, good ones. And they need them from you, the parent.  So true, if we can’t communication God to our children, how can we think someone else will be effective?  This book enables you to give them simple, clear answers.

Take a look at the table of contents

Table of Contents

What makes The God Puzzle unique?

  • ready made discussion questions for parent to ask their child in each lesson
  • can be done at any pace that works with your 
  • family . . . every night, once a week, 10 minutes here, 30 minutes there . . . it fits into realistic family life
  • puts the pieces together for a child to understand God, the Bible, and the Christian faith
  • in each lesson the responds to the truth so they understand their relationship to God is personal and life transforming
  • any parent, whether they know nothing, or a lot about God can start teaching their child today with no prep
  • deep theology put into language a child can understand
  • deeply Biblical, each lesson points to Christ
  • put in an order that starts with creation, and teaches the Bible as one story that all points to Christ
  • child stays engaged by filling in blanks, crosswords, drawing, matching and using their Bibles as they learn

{the above was taken directly from their website, and I agree 100%}

Want to do a quick run through with a sample chapter?  Here is a link so you can check it out.

For more information on this author and the book you can check it out here.

Purchase your own copy today and get started!