You would think I would have this motherhood gig down now since I’ve doing this nearly 24 years – but alas, I mess up and get off track too!
I began looking at my evening routine as part of some struggles I’ve been having lately keeping my patience. Ugh, I hate to admit it, but it’s true. This is even more frequent when I am single parenting and my husband is on the road. And, I am sure I am not the only one.
Here are some key pieces I have determined I need to be sure to put into motion to close out my day with a patient and gracious heart, as well as preparing my mind and soul for rest. I hope you can take a few of these ideas and incorporate them too!
Check Your Calendar for Tomorrow
This won’t necessarily make your evening better, but it will certainly make your morning better! When I can check my calendar for the next day and get a basic plan in my head the evening before, I tend to settle down more easily. Whether you have a calendar digitally or a paper version, get into a habit of checking your next day’s activities so you can do what you can the evening before to start your morning off right.
Connect with Your Husband
If you are married, this is a MUST! Since I have been caring for my body with better food, all-natural products, and using essential oils for my mama mode and moods (aka. occasional stress), I tend to not be as exhausted by evening. It has been a shift for us that as soon as our son is down for the night we can connect. Sharing about our day, talking about upcoming plans, or just watching a favorite show without distractions. My husband is my second priority and I need to be sure I am displaying that in my actions.
Practice Some Self-Care
This will look different for everyone, but for me it is pretty simple. It may be just washing my face with my favorite Orange Blossom Facial Wash to get the grime off me and apply some lavish night time face cream with a drop of Frankincense. Or it may include a nice soak in the tub for 20 minutes with some Epsom salts and essential oils. It is certainly my happy spot! Do you know what your happy spot is? What brings you joy and calms your body? Maybe it’s going for a walk – alone! These are all things that can nourish and refresh us!
I have found more joy the past few months sitting down and reading at the end of the day. It’s not usually for more than 15 minutes, because I do tend to get tired. But the wonderful books I’ve been diving into have been complete bliss. Present over Perfect by Shauna Niequist was so good for me. Perfect for my season of life. I also recently enjoyed Bread and Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table with Recipes but Shauna Niequist as well. My current read is The Gift of an Ordinary Day: A Mother’s Memoir by Katrina Kenison.
Get Enough Sleep
BINGO! I know so many moms who try to burn the candle at both ends and it takes its toll. Please, for the sake of your health, your family, and your spirit – get enough sleep. This is the time your body refreshes itself. It needs this downtime to run the way God intended it to. I try to get in bed no later than 10:00pm and then I have been sleeping until 6:00am. This works for me, maybe not for you. I encourage you to find a schedule that works and try to stick to it. Research shows a bedtime routine is great and having a set bedtime and wake up that is consistent each day is even better for your body.
Ending your day with prayer is the best way to leave everything at the Lord’s feet. Some find it helpful to journal their prayers, other’s like me just talk out loud. This has helped me so much to have a grateful heart and reset my soul even if it’s been a rough evening.
What tip here will you begin to incorporate?