Reduce Stress and Be Healthier


Reduce Stress and Be Healthier, Happier, and More Productive

I took some time over the weekend and watched the incredible series, “The Truth About Cancer, A Global Quest”. You can find more information on it at their Facebook page if you like. The information is very empowering and amazing.

One of the key takeaways I got was that stress plays an incredible role – not only in our daily health and wellness – but with BIG issues like cancer.

Stress that is not handled and controlled will take a physical, as well as a mental, toll on your body and affect relationships. This is serious stuff. I have been aware of this information for my basic wellness, but it really struck me while watching some of the material about cancer and its prevention. I need to step up my game on how I handle my to-do list, my emotional health, and my relationships. 

So how should you do it? I could come up with a huge list, but let’s start simple. In the life of a busy mom, there are certainly key components to our day – so here are a few to start with:

Write It Out, Schedule It Out

It is best to write down everything that seems to be overwhelming. You will find a things-to-do list much easier to manage than having errands all crumpled up in your head. Writing down the tasks, and putting a specific schedule and time to do them, helps anyone manage activities one chunk at a time. Crossing out an activity that has already been accomplished is very rewarding and could actually help you feel more relaxed when doing the other tasks at hand. I love crossing things off – LOVE IT! Precisely why I created the Confident Mom Weekly Household Planner – I want to check off that box.

One At a Time Works

Focus and put all your attention specifically on one task at one time. It does not help to feel panicky about the other undone or to-do tasks. Thinking about them only adds unnecessary stress and could even hamper in doing the task you are attempting to accomplish at present. I am not a very good multi-tasker – but in certain situations like listening to a podcast while cooking or driving, yeah I can do that!

Relax and Take It Slow

At least, try not to expend too much energy on activities that are currently not priorities. This is in order for your energy to be not easily expended on the tasks that are not that important, at least for now. I like to arrange my tasks in order of importance – this is critical for me to not get sidetracked with things that are not top priorities for the day.

Delegate, Delegate, Delegate

You need not do everything all at once, and you need not do everything on your own. Ask for help, get help, or pay for help. When there is a feeling of being overwhelmed that is cropping up, if you can budget it, hire someone to mow the lawn or get a sitter for your children. The feeling of being pressed to finish something on time will somehow be eliminated if tasks are delegated. It takes a load off unnecessary worry and anxiety. Moreover, it is easier checking up on how things are, than worrying yourself sick doing everything on your own, all at once.

Celebrate (Even the Mundane)

Acknowledging your accomplishments, no matter how big or small, is an effort that is necessary before getting on to the next tasks and activities. If completing a certain number of tasks allows you time for a break and a cup of tea – take it! Enjoy and celebrate. It reduces stress and could even make you happier in doing the next task.

Relax. Take some of the pressure off yourself and take a deep breath. Your health depends on it. You will find yourself healthier, happier, and a lot more productive.

6 Refreshing Ideas for the Busy Mom


6 Refreshing Ideas for the Busy Mom

I love the transition of seasons. There is something when the air shifts to cooler mornings that brings a peace to my spirit. But with that, seems to come the entrance of the busyness that can often overwhelm us as moms.

I seem to ebb and flow with keeping life in balance and finding time for me to keep refreshed. The interesting thing I find is that often I feel like I am the only one struggling to find that refreshment which I crave. Seems like all the other moms have it together – what is the matter with me?

That ache of perfectionism seeps in – that area I am currently struggling on shifting. Allowing myself to not be perfect and be okay. The realization that I just cannot do it all – NO, I can’t. Even though I am driven to push forward.

The calm, the slowing down, the sitting and being quiet – the voices of a few friends lingering in my mind. My body starts to relax.

Life is busy – I get that. However, I refuse to believe that I have to live in the midst of always going, looking at my to-do list unfinished, and just basically getting by. I want to be more of who God wants me to be and when I exhaust myself, I certainly do not become the best of me. I become the worst of me, to myself and to those I care about.

So what’s a tired mama to do? Step back…take a breath…and savor a few moments and let go. If I do not, angst and hopelessness can easily become part of my life again.

Here are a few of my sanity savers that I have been practicing lately. Do any of these sound like small steps toward self-care you could incorporate too?


Friends, I am terrible at this one. However, I am putting it first on my list as I know the power it has to change things in an instant and I need to have this be my FIRST plan of action when I begin to feel overwhelmed and exhausted. Seek His grace and mercy – and push ahead with His plan.

Find Quiet

With a house full, finding quiet can be difficult. I absolutely love to spend time at the beach – walking outdoors and down to the ocean is so refreshing and incredibly relaxing to my soul. The sound of waves is like a big hug from God. But I can’t always be at the beach, so I need to create some quiet space in my own home, to let my spirit exhale.


Getting outdoors is perfect medicine for my soul too. With the cooler months coming, do not let that be an excuse to stay indoors. Bundle up and head outside. The coolness on your face will refresh you and the air will fill you with new energy. It’s the perfect place to head when you feel like the walls are closing in on you.

Treasure Music

This is one of my sweet spots – listening to music. A few of my favorites that bring a calm to my spirit: Lauren Diagle (this is my favorite album right now!), Koeola Beamer (here is an example of his Slack Guitar – love it!), and the Passion Worship Band (a favorite of mine). Find music that brings life to you. Play it in the car, in your home, and enjoy!

Get Take Out

Yes, I said that. In the past I would never have made this an “okay” thing to do, unless it was planned in advance. But you know, life happens. My work with my perfectionism helped me to realize that at the end of the day if I am exhausted and not in the mood to cook dinner, it is better for everyone if we just order some good for us food. We have shifted our budget so we can allow for these occasions, and it has really helped to refresh me.

Crawl in Bed 

Yep, even at two in the afternoon. There are not many days that I do this, however…when I just put my jammies on and crawl in bed for some “Fixer Upper” or just reading, it can help me and my mind find its happy place. There are even days when my five year old loves this and joins me, which I find so cute. But honestly, I love the days when I can just crawl in bed, escape, and not have to do mom duty anymore. I am truly lucky when that happens.

What are your “go-to” ideas when you need to give yourself a break? Here is an article I wrote some time back that gives a few more ideas on caring for yourself.


My Latest Stitch Fix *Video Review*


My Latest Stitch Fix *Video Review*

I cannot believe this is my 42nd Stitch Fix box! When this service came out I was one of the first to jump on board – because I hate shopping. I have no creative imagination, I do not like shuffling through racks of clothes, and I certainly do not like to waste the time doing so.

I consider Stitch Fix part of my self-care routine. I have been able to change our clothing budget to allow me to purchase a few items if they work out from the boxes I receive. I can’t choose everything that comes, but choices are good to have.

Today I decided to share a video walk-through of my latest box and show you why I love it, why you should give it a try, and how you can feel special having someone else pick goodies for you!

Watch the video and share with me what you think I should keep! I am still deciding on a few things.

If you are viewing this in an RSS feed, you will need to click through to the blog to view the video.

Have you received a Stitch Fix box before? What was your experience like? If you haven’t given it a try, why not check it out? I think you will love it too!

I Am Enough


I Am Enough - Scripture to Help Moms Be Good Enough

I recently shared with you all about my walk through dealing with my perfectionism. I am in for the long haul to focus, be intentional, and defeat this stronghold. Over the past few weeks, I have been looking for ways to speak TRUTH into my life.

So much of what stems and feeds my perfectionism is words that I speak to myself – that ugly self-talk. I am sure you know exactly what I am talking about – “I can’t do that,”  “How on earth could I allow that to happen, I am so stupid,” or “Everyone will see now how incapable I am.”

I read a devotion the other day written by Rick Warren on the YouVerison app and I wrote down the words that he spoke – that is how God sees me. I have them written on a note card and speak them to myself each morning.

I am acceptable.

I am lovable.

I am valuable.

I am forgivable.

I am capable.

This is how God sees me and how I need to begin to view myself; giving myself the incredible gift of grace that God does. These words are powerful truths. I am enough.

Maybe you need to hear them daily as well – go ahead, grab a note card and write them down. Tuck them into a journal or post them on your bathroom mirror. They are meant to be shared. God thinks you are amazing too!

I also grabbed this fabulous scripture coloring bookLive Loved: An Adult Coloring BookLive Loved: An Adult Coloring Book by Margaret Feinberg. (I also considered this coloring book on amazon)  This is just for me. To spend some time settling my heart on occasion. I tend to run at full speed and when it comes to scripture memorization I am not gifted in that area – but I can be more intentional about getting scripture embedded in my heart, so in comes the coloring book. (And some fabulously new colored pencils all sharpened!)

I also hold onto this verse, repeating it daily as I work through the areas I am currently focusing on: I can do all this through Him who gives me strength. – Phil 4:13 NIV

I also listen to this song on repeat sometimes. It is one of my favorites!

What I Am Loving Right Now


What I Am Loving Right Now

When you discover some things that you find helpful or fun, it’s great to share. That’s what this post is today – some things I have discovered which I feel help encourage me in my journey through motherhood and also self-care. We all need that.

I shared my struggle with perfectionism last week (thank you to all who emailed and messaged me saying it was so helpful – it meant a lot to me!) and I am currently going through some intense therapy to break those strongholds. It is hard work. I started sharing on The Confident Mom Facebook page each Monday my weekly five goals, which have some self-care items included, because that is an area I need to focus on. I have found some of the items below beneficial in reaching my goals.

Every Day in His PresenceEvery Day in His Presence

It was time for a new devotional book. I have read through Jesus Calling and Jesus Lives, both of which I loved, so it was time for something new. Each morning I check in with my YouVersion Bible App, where I currently follow two reading plans. I love the app because it’s always with me. Every Day in His Presence gives an added dimension to my time with God and I especially find it helpful because there is a short prayer at the end that prompts me.

First 5 – From Proverbs 31 Ministries

Anther recent addition to my morning quiet time is – an app developed by Lysa TerKeurst and her team at Proverbs 31 Ministries. It was her desire to connect a woman’s heart to God’s Word in the First 5 minutes of her day. I love that there is a beautiful graphic meeting me each morning and a different author sharing about the word of God. There is a place to add my own moments and notes that are important to me. I can also comment and share – in a place others will see. We just finished going through the book of John, and it was good. On the weekend, Lysa shares a video teaching which really brings the week’s teaching to life.

JJ, Hospice Therapy Dog

Okay, if you are not on Facebook, you can breeze through this one. I somehow stumbled on this page and have been enamored ever since. I have come to realize that I “feely deeply” as my husband says and I am very sensitive. I would never have really said that about myself until all this recent counseling – but it is good for me to be aware of and celebrate.

I have loved following the story of JJ, a therapy dog who works alongside his owner in a hospice, bringing joy and support for patients and staff. If you scroll through some of the posts, you will see so much kindness and pure peace. My mom was in hospice care for less than 36 hours before she passed away, but I will tell you, the work that is done is amazing and the people who lovingly care for those who are leaving this life are amazing. Just scrolling and reading through these posts fills my heart with different emotions and feelings.

21 Day Fix21 Day Fix

Yes, I joined the many who have done this program! I purchased the 21 Day Fix Essential Package and began last Tuesday, so I am on day 5. Let me just say, I have done a lot of eating plans, tried different approaches to weight management, and this one appears to be a great fit for me. I love that it is simple – no crazy food or weird recipes. Simple is best for me. 

It comes with food cups and your serving sizes are set. No complicated measuring! You choose from a list of food for each type of container and you are done. You do one 30 minute workout a day and drink lots of water. I chose to use my Young Living Pure Protein Complete Chocolate (PDF printable information sheet) powder instead of purchasing the more expensive Shakeology and I will say the shakes are almost my favorite part of the day! I will be sharing next week some of the recipes I have gathered and used with the Protein Shakes that Young Living has. I have Vanilla on the way too!  

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