When Self-Care is Non-Negotiable

18
Jun
2015

I’ve been away from blogging for two weeks – remember me?  My last post shared about the essential oils I planned to bring on my international trip.  Well, I returned from said trip on Sunday, having had a much larger adventure than I planned.

I arrived in Venice with a pulsing finger, infected from an earlier simple procedure my dermatologist had done – a huge bummer to deal with while overseas, but I did come armed and prepared!  Then I began having digestive issues which became a much bigger issue and I spent two days in a Croatian clinic dealing with that (the entire experience will be a complete blog post, so stay tuned for that!).  

We returned to our cruise ship after a crazy day of “The Amazing Race” type travel to enjoy the last three days of the cruise and had a great time.

But on the day of return our flight was delayed, we missed our connection and had one more day away from home.  I was exhausted, worn out and depleted beyond what I could ever imagine.

Usually I tend to just ‘buck up’ and keep pushing when things get a bit tough.  My plan was to come back to blogging Monday – yes, three days ago…..but that didn’t happen.  I was tired and I needed some time to adjust back to normal life.  I was away for 13 days – crazy!

But here I sit, trying to ‘get back to normal’ and I am severely struggling.  41XVyWa4iyL

While I was away on my vacation I read the book,  “Nourished:  A Search for Health, Happiness, and a Full Night’s Sleep” by Becky Johnson and Rachel Randolph.  It was just what my mind needed to hear and my heart needed to have permission to feel.  I know see the timing of me reading this book, was not a by chance encounter, but a divine intervention.

So, instead of rushing back to a blogging schedule I am taking some time for self-care – to nourish my soul and get the rest my body was craving when I left on vacation, but certainly did not receive.  The saying, “I need a vacation from my vacation,” is certainly true for me this time around.

So I may be a bit infrequent here, but know I am caring for myself in ways I so encourage other moms to do, but rarely allow myself the grace to fit it in. 

I will be:

Sleeping when I am tired

Allowing God to speak to my worn out heart

Taking time to enjoy my kids during the first part of summer

Supporting and reviving my body – all naturally so it can serve me well  

Focusing on my marriage and being more intentional

Those are just a few of the things I will be more worried about than writing a blog post.  I am afraid if I don’t allow the time and space for my body to recover and fall in place, things could get rather ugly.

I love that word, Nourished.  I don’t know that I have ever even put it in the same sentence as myself – but for now….I am taking time to Nourish myself so I can be who God wants and desires me to be.

I’ll be back to share my adventure and some fabulous pictures with you too!

Learning to Live Well

8
May
2015

The Fringe Hours - finding balance

Wow, it has been a quick four weeks – or was it just me?

Seems like this book was packed full of practical advice and steps for us to begin using those Fringe Hours and care for our needs.

I feel a bit of a failure, as I truly haven’t been able to make any physical changes to my routine yet….. but I guess it all starts with small whispers, and I can easily see how things need to be re-focused and altered.  It is up to me to just do it.

The last chapter struck me and I wanted to focus on these areas as we close this study.

Do you choose Joy?

I have shared in the past about my struggle with emotional balance – even though things are much better now and I am able to naturally support my mood, I can still find myself sinking into a funk –   I feel like I can easily lack seeing the joy in my life.   I quickly grab an essential oil (Joy being one of my favorites for my mood) and try to refocus and stand back from my situation for a few minutes.  Life gets too rush and things swirl fast, I get caught up and overwhelmed.  

I need a new perspective.

Joy is a choice and I need to remember that.

Will you celebrate your victories?

As we get older I think we lose the ability to celebrate small victories….. as things can come easily for us.  But what would happen if we truly gave ourselves credit for all the little victories, things we don’t see as “big deals” but really can be?

I tend to play down things that could be celebrated in my life….. I hate attention on myself, I am an introvert and love my own space, but I can see where me recognizing the small things could in fact be a very critical part of celebrating my WHOLE self.

So each day I think I will look for the small victory I can celebrate!

Are you thankful?

I can be better at this – and I loved Jessica’s suggestions:

Pray:  Thank God for the blessings he has given you.

Write:  Get a journal and write down what you are thankful for each day.

Send a note:  If you are grateful for someone, let them know.  A card always blesses people.

Acknowledge the gift in your heart:  You don’t have to do anything tangible.  Just mentally acknowledge the gift.

Great points to put into action.

I so appreciate you taking the time to go on this journey through The Fringe Hours with me.  I know that the message of this book will resonate with me for years to come.  I certainly do not have it all together right now, and I am still working on finding MARGIN (my word for 2015) which fits right in with using my Fringe Hours well.  

We all need to live happier, healthier and more balanced lives.  It is a work in progress!

Week Four : The Fringe Hours – Relationships

4
May
2015

 Week four a

This week will run a bit different, you have all week to read three chapters as we discuss them on the Facebook page.  I will do a final closing post on Friday – so really take your time and allow this week to fill your heart, energize you and allow the message to sink in.

Being an introvert, I find it hard to be around a lot of people at a time – but I do enjoy doing activities and spending time with smaller groups.  Community – that is what we are truly made for – relationships.  

As a mom who works from mom, does most of her interactions online and has a husband who travels 3-4 days a week, I find myself in a little cocoon.   I find myself alone all week long, so this chapter was encouragement for me to stretch myself and make time to get out and meet up with friends.

I can’t wait to discuss what elements of these chapters truly resonate with you!

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand to be understood.”  Lucius Annaeus Seneca

READ

Part 4, Live Well

Chapter 11, Cultivating Community

Chapter 12, Finding Rest

Chapter 13, Living Well

(you’ll need to click through to the website to view the video)

Hop over to the Facebook page and join in the discussion.  This is where the majority of the community will happen, although you are certainly welcome to comment here on the blog too!

EXTRA! EXTRA!

The Fringe Hours Manifesto as a beautiful printable – what better way to remember what you are reading and trying to change in your life?  Click the link and download a copy right away. It will be an on-going source of encouragement and inspiration to help you pursue the kind of time for yourself that energizes your heart, soul and spirit.

Week Three : The Fringe Hours – Overcoming Obstacles

29
Apr
2015

Week three bI have never been one that finds it easy to ask for help, just ask my husband.  It’s like pulling teeth!  For me to stop and open my mouth to physically ask for help  is almost seriously impossible for me.  I am sure there are some big reasons as to why – but it has created problems for me.

I have to get better in this area.

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that I waste time when I have to focus my brain on tasks that need done.  That is why I love things like the Weekly Household Planner, which spell tasks out and I can decide whether I want to do them or not.  However, I do not waste time trying to figure out what needs to be done each week.  Relief!

I also know that asking my family for help would relieve me of many stressful tasks and I know they would be wiling to help too, but I have an underlying issue that is spelled…. C-O-N-T-R-O-L.  Yep, I like to be in control.

In this chapter there are some great tips to focus on and remember as we head into our days with long lists.  The work of many will help ease the tasks of just one person.  When a family can share in the work, it makes it better for all.

Several years ago I relinquished to hiring a housecleaner.  Yes, the one who faithfully puts out a cleaning schedule has a housecleaner!!  But you know, it was an area that I had to give up and allow someone else to help with so that my strengths and passions could be used elsewhere (on this blog and mentoring others with Young Living.)  It was pivotal in my business and family life.

I still do many of the home keeping activities, but it is a relief to know that I can be reaching out to another mom on a phone call and or writing a blog post rather than mop my floor.  God has gifted me, just like he has you and during this season, He has blessed me with a housecleaner so I can be used in different ways.

“You can’t do everything, so don’t fall into the trap of trying.  Instead, find the moments in each aspect of your life that invigorate you, and imbalance your life toward those.”  –  Marcus Buckingham

READ

Chapter 9, Embracing Help

Chapter 10, Overcoming Obstacles

WATCH

(you’ll need to click through to the website to view the video)

 

Hop over to the Facebook page and join in the discussion.  This is where the majority of the community will happen, although you are certainly welcome to comment here on the blog too!

EXTRA:::

Here is a blog post I wrote about Delegating – I think I need to go back and read what I wrote before!! 

Week Three : The Fringe Hours – Prioritizing

27
Apr
2015

Week 3 a Time, that magic word…. we either love it or find it haunting us.  We either feel we have enough or are lacking a lot. 

“One always has time enough, if one will apply it well.”   Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Ouch, I don’t think I really like that quote, only because I think it rings true.  I do waste a lot of time on unproductive things, which could in turn be used on good things – like self-care for me!  I find the issue of breaking bad habits hard, how about you?

I really loved this first section of the chapter as well….. it resonated with me immensely. 

“The prioritization of our passions benefits us in every way – internally (spiritually, mentally, and emotionally) and externally (in our relationships with other people and how we interact with them).  We are more fulfilled, which leads to greater joy and peace.”

READ

Part 3, Maximize

Chapter 7, Prioritizing Your Activities

Chapter 8, Using Your Time Efficiently

WATCH

(you’ll need to click through to the website to view the video)

 

Hop over to the Facebook page and join in the discussion.  This is where the majority of the community will happen, although you are certainly welcome to comment here on the blog too!