Practice Making Wise Decisions

28
Oct
2014

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I have been known to procrastinate a time or two…..or maybe ten or twenty!  UGH!  It sometimes really amazes me I have made it this far in life because of how paralyzed I can be at times – not knowing what to do, so I do nothing!!!

Do you ever feel paralyzed?  Just fearful of making the wrong decision so much that it just keeps you from doing anything.  I get that way, I avoid and I think if I just don’t think about it, said “it” will just not be there the next time I turn around.  But, it is.  And causes me more anxiety in the process.  

From big decisions to little ones, I can get bogged down with the details so much that it prevents me from moving ahead.  ACK!  I hate admitting that, but it is true.  I can feel lost and flailing and I am so glad that Lysa shared the three questions that we all can and should consider when we are looking to make any type of decision.

  •   Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word lately?
  •   Have you been applying God’s Word in your life lately?
  •   Have you sought Godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your    situation?

“We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.”

I love feeling empowered to make decisions that are good when I incorporate knowledge, insight, and discernment by using the above questions as a guideline for myself.  I love knowing I can grab hold of those questions the next time I am feeling a bit underprepared for making a decision, which I am sure will be within the next few hours.

When Lysa shared her experience of having to navigate the decision a to whether they would open their home to a friend….. I could relate to those feelings she was sharing.  I loved that she added four more aspects to making a wise decision:

Physically – can you say yes in this area?

Financially – can you say yes in this area?

Spiritually – can you say yes in this area?

Emotionally – can you say yes in this area?  (this is the one I rarely even consider, although it seems it may need to be closer to the top of my considerations!)

I tend to over-extend myself in the area of “emotions” – thinking I can do more or give more than what I realistically can handle.  This is an area I need to be very aware of especially since I know that my depression and hopelessness can stem from being bankrupt emotionally.

A few things to consider this week from the Study Guide: 

I loved this suggestion and wondered if anyone else would be up for the challenge?  I often am doing a lot, but my motive is not from the heart and I can be bitter about being put out.  I want to work on this area, so won’t you join me?

  • Be servant-hearted.  Do something for another person without grumbling.  Trust that God sees, God knows, and through this act of service, God will develop your character to match your calling.

Truth is always something I need to focus on rather than my feelings.  This is an area I need to be reminded of.

  • Stand in assurance.  Trump your feelings with truth. Just because you feel incapable/offended/insecure doesn’t mean you need to be incapable/offended/insecure.

My words can often be short and snarky – yes – I know.  In the haste of daily routine I can get an attitude or feel overworked and my words show that.  Here is another area to be mindful of.

  • Tuck wisdom into your life.  Practice it in the things you say and in the things you choose not to say.

Hop over to the Facebook page tonight at 6:15 PM Pacific time or 9:15 Eastern time to join our LOVE CHAT, I’ll be giving away a prize tonight and I know you will love it! 

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Week Two – The Best Yes

27
Oct
2014

weektwoThis week we are reading Chapters 4-6 of The Best Yes.  

We are also having a LIVE Facebook chat on our private page tomorrow evening, Tuesday – October 28th – 6:15 PM PACIFIC TIME / 9:15 PM EASTERN TIME.   We will be sharing a few questions, a worship song or two and connect with each other for about 45 minutes.  I would love to see you!

If you did not watch both sermon video casts that I shared last week done by Lysa at Elevation Church, you will want to FOR SURE watch this one, as it really digs into what we are reading this week.  I watched both while on the treadmill last week and they were excellent!

Another great resource this week, is another sermon Lysa shared at New Spring church on being overwhelmed.  I am watching this one this week!  You can see a video beginning at 11:30 in the taping, or go straight to where Lysa begins at 15:27.

Have you enjoyed the community over on the Private Facebook Page?  Oh my word – it has been so rich with everyone sharing and feeling comfortable being vulnerable.  I thank you to everyone for sharing from you heart and your desire to change.

I saw this yesterday and it really struck me and I wanted to share.  This is so true – in so many areas of our lives, change will only occur when we are truly fed up with the way things are.  I am ready for change and I know you wouldn’t be here if you were not either!  We desire transformation – Lord, help us hear from you and learn to make better decisions. 

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This week, read Proverbs 8-13 – be sure to journal and share any insight you have either here on this page or the Private Facebook group.

I will see you back here tomorrow with my thoughts on this weeks reading.  Be sure to hop over to the Facebook page and share in the community!

Obeying God’s Instruction

21
Oct
2014

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Do you remember the last time you messed up or missed out on something because of a choice you made?  How about ordering the steak at dinner but then you wonder just right after you order if you really should have ordered the Tilapia?

I could so identify with the story Lysa shared about her daughter in the drive thru line – that overwhelming feeling that perhaps we wish we’d made a different choice.  Now food is rather trivial….. but it gives a clear perspective for us on how in real life we are in situations all the time where we could regret the decisions we’ve made.

“And we girls don’t like feeling we missed out.  Or messed up.  Or misstepped right out of what should have been or what could have been.”

I am a procrastinator with decisions, because I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, I get overwhelmed with the ideas and or requests and it paralyzes me.  Can you relate?

I know this book is for me because I am in a season where I truly need to look at what my BEST YES decisions are.  Where does God want me to be, what does He want me to do – or NOT do.

What I highlighted:

“I dread saying yes but feel powerless to say no.”

“We’ll tell you all about our broken places of yesterday but don’t dare admit the limitations of our today.”

“I’m tried.  I’m distracted.  I’m disappointed in myself.  I feel slightly used and more than slightly used up.  I’m a little overwhelmed and a lot worn down.”

“I asked the God of the universe to intersect my life with HIS revelation, then got up from my prayers and forgot to look.”

“Unbroken companionship helps us hear His instruction so then we can see His direction.  We must not seek direction before obeying His instruction.”

“We live reactive lives instead of proactive.  And reactive lives get very exhausting, very quickly.”

Just two weeks ago I sat in the middle of my bible study group and admitted I was worn out, exhausted and barely hanging on.  There were many reasons, some brought on by my own actions and decisions, but a few not, like suffering from a back strain which produced it’s own group of problems.  I hate feeling like that, but am so thankful I could at least admit it to someone.  I am human too, but most of the time expect myself to just be like the energizer bunny….just keep going.

The problem is, at some point you cannot keep going at the same rate and continue to add things to your plate and think it will all work out.  It won’t.

I wonder when I quickly add things without thinking – what am I missing out on that God might have in store for me? I want to learn to truly hear what God is saying to me, not just sitting in the morning and spending time and then leaving it all there – on my nightstand.

That last quote I shared from the book from my highlighted notes – living a reactive life….. yeah, I kinda feel like that is where I am right now….. putting out fire after fire… and it is very exhausting. Perhaps you are in the same boat, just longing for change.  The time is now…. and I am here with – you joining you in the journey.

I pray that during this week you are refreshed with hope – that you can begin right now to start making good decisions, the decisions that really matter in the big scheme.

Be sure to stop over on the Facebook page for conversation on what we are reading.  You’ll love that you are not alone and we are all struggling.

Here is a PDF printable of the Scripture verses I ask about in the Facebook page too, so just in case you didn’t get them there, please download them here!

Extra bonus:  I discovered that Lysa did two sermons at Elevation Church, here is the link to watch BOTH sermons – put the time in your schedule this week to be blessed and refreshed!  {I will be watching both while on the treadmill this week – Yep, that is one of my BEST YES decisions for me}

Week One – The Best Yes

20
Oct
2014

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Here we are – ready to get started?

Even if you do not have your book yet, it is NOT too late to join us.  You can order your book now through amazon and also read the first chapter here.

This week we are reading Chapters 1-3 of The Best Yes

I will post tomorrow some of my thoughts on the weeks reading and each day there will be prompt questions for discussion on the Private Facebook Page – so you’ll want to make sure to check those out.  That is where the bulk of the community and sharing will take place.

For a lot of moms, getting out of the house to do a bible study can be really difficult, this option of participating from home is one that meets the needs of many.  Whether you are a stay at home mom, working outside the home mom or a mom to many little ones – this study is for you!  

I have felt led to have online book and Bible studies on my site now for a year.  We started with our first one, I Used to Be So Organized, by Glynnis Whitwer {you can find week one of that study here}  and then led to No More Perfect Moms by Jill Savage {you can find the introduction to that study here} and then most recently 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom by Sue Detweiler {you can find week one here}.

What I love is that all these studies are here on the blog – even if you come late, or come two years later, you can read through the posts on the books we’ve done and get different perspective from other moms!!  It has been a fun journey and a true blessing for many.

I just love how the Lord takes me on a new journey when I least expect it!

Which leads us to the fourth online book and Bible study – The Best Yes, by Lysa Terkeurst.

A few extra resources available this week:

You can download a FREE chapter from the Study Guide for week one – some of the prompts for the week will come from this resource.  But there are even more ways to dive in a bit deeper.  If you desire a bit more depth, you can order your own copy of the Study Guide that accompanies the book HERE.

Here is a wonderful PDF printable to have handy with ways to say no graciously – so many of us want to help and please others, but when you can learn to say no with grace, it can be done just a bit easier.

A Chase down the decision tool – a fun way to navigate through decisions that need to be made.  You will want to bookmark this beauty!

And for this week, we get to watch the WEEK ONE video that accompanies the book – this is a real treat and unfortunately with this type of online study, we won’t have the other videos available – but this week we do!

If you are reading this in your inbox, you will need to click through to the blog post to watch the video.  

 

Also this week:

In the Study Guide that accompanies The Best Yes DVD series, there is a suggestion to read the book of Proverbs since it is conveniently divided into thirty-one chapters, perfect to cover in about a month.  I challenge you to read one chapter a day, six to seven days a week over the next five weeks of our study and see how The Lord speaks to you.

Are you up for it?

This week, read Proverbs 1-7 – be sure to journal and share any insight you have either here on this page or the Private Facebook group.

Also, be sure to look at your schedule and find the time to read the chapters for the week.  You will only get out what you PUT INTO this study.  If you do not read the material it will be hard for you to join in on the conversation.  It would be such a huge bummer to miss what you have to say and contribute to others.

I will see you back here tomorrow with my thoughts on this weeks reading.  Be sure to hop over to the Facebook page and introduce yourself too!

When God Allows Pain

6
Oct
2014

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You know how God has to ‘allow’ something in your life to get your attention?  I think for me that happened this past week.

  • It was confirmation for me of a few things that had been tossing around in my head:
  • I needed to cut some obligations from my schedule
  • I needed to change my perspective and settle in the simple things

I knew the choice for the next book study here at The Confident Mom was correct for me – especially me – Lysa Terkeurst’s The Best Yes.

You see, my schedule has been jammed packed, my to-do list overloaded and my body beginning to show signs of running out of steam.  I tend to ignore those ‘signs’ as long as I can, but Wednesday morning as I met Shaun T (Focus T25 Shaun T) for my workout, I did a squat and something tweaked in my back.

As the day progressed my back began to fight me and pain wrapped my entire back and spasms began.  I was on my own, as my husband was out of town which made things even more difficult.  I was in severe pain and finding myself desperate for relief. 

I was forced to STOP and do nothing.  Sitting was painful, laying down was a bit more comfortable – but what about my to-do list?  I had blog posts to write, emails to send and work to be done.

But I was forced to stop.

I feel God allowed this back episode to happen in order to get my attention that something needed to change and if I wasn’t going to do it on my own, He would lend a hand.

So this weekend I am reminded of what truly matters and how I need to make time for it.  Interestingly enough I had just made a huge decision for me and turned down an opportunity to travel all expenses paid to Ecuador for a Master Leaders Retreat in November with Young Living.  I had the opportunity to begin living out The Best Yes path – making wise decisions in the middle of all the demands.  

I knew it would be a lot for my family to endure if I left home for a week right before the holiday season.  Even though the learning I would get would be amazing, it is all relative to what I would have to give up to make it happen.  

It just wasn’t something I was comfortable to do.  So I declined the invitation.  I was a bit sad, but I feel confident in my decision now.  Even empowered by it.

You see I need help – EACH AND EVERY DAY to make wise decisions with my time, energy and commitments.  There are so many demands so even though I know this study will help many others, I am doing it selfishly for myself.

I need this help – this reminder, this outline to make decisions that are right for me and my family.

This weekend I had to stop, I was forced to relax (which I do not do very easily I will admit) and seriously enjoyed some time walking the beach, because honestly – it felt much better for my back to walk than sit.  I spent more time just wandering than I would have otherwise.  It was one of the best weekends I’ve had an awhile.  Not what I would have planned, but it was just what God had in my plan.

So get ready for our next online book study, The Best Yes – starting October 20 – November 28, 2014.  It is a 6 week study and I will provide more details on October 16th.  Go grab your book now, either on kindle or paperback and get ready to join me.  We will have a private Facebook page as well – and it will be hosted by other moms who have joined me in the journey.

Isn’t that exciting – that we can all grow together and I have also realized I cannot do it all on my own any more – I need help too!  I had an incredible response to my request to get some help with this next study – I am in awe of how God provides!

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I leave you with a quote that is so perfect to sit with until our study begins…… I pray it touches your heart.

And here are a few snapshots of my weekend – things I could have possibly missed if I had been trying to work my “to-do” list instead of having to get out and walk.  What a glorious weekend it was!  {Oh, and a little secret, I slept in both Saturday and Sunday til 7:45 AM!!!}

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