The Confident Mom http://www.theconfidentmom.com Empowering Moms - Strengthening Families - Embracing God's Design Thu, 28 Jul 2016 00:25:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Mommy Burnout: A Real Reality http://www.theconfidentmom.com/07/faith-and-family/mommy-burnout-real-reality/ http://www.theconfidentmom.com/07/faith-and-family/mommy-burnout-real-reality/#comments Mon, 25 Jul 2016 10:00:00 +0000 http://www.theconfidentmom.com/?p=184757 I thought the day was starting out like all others, but shortly after I was up last Friday morning, my reality began to disintegrate. I read this article written by blogging friend Kelly Richards over at Mrs. Disciple and it resonated with me. I felt like summer break was eating me alive this year, and I have only one child at home that I am responsible to supervise. {By the way, if you don’t follow Kelly’s blog, do it today – it will refresh you, inspire you, and give you hope!} I read the article and my heart sank. I was tired – well, actually beat down exhausted. I sat back […]

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Mommy Burnout: A Real Reality

I thought the day was starting out like all others, but shortly after I was up last Friday morning, my reality began to disintegrate. I read this article written by blogging friend Kelly Richards over at Mrs. Disciple and it resonated with me. I felt like summer break was eating me alive this year, and I have only one child at home that I am responsible to supervise. {By the way, if you don’t follow Kelly’s blog, do it today – it will refresh you, inspire you, and give you hope!}

I read the article and my heart sank. I was tired – well, actually beat down exhausted. I sat back with another warm cup of coffee and read through some of God’s word and was met with:

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:2-5

Oh my, it spoke to me as I was feeling weary. I was trying to manage on my own strength, yet once again. I needed to ask Him for His strength and to show me His plan for my day.

I had been in a three week period of travel – which can be good, exciting, and fun, but for me as an introvert, it can put me in overdrive and exhaust my soul. I was spending some days as a single parent while my husband was gone working out of town, which is not unusual (I experience this weekly) – but the combination of travel, caring for my family on my own, managing my household, two homebased businesses, going through a second round of the 21 Day Sugar Detox, and having recently sold our home and starting the process of selling a majority of our personal belongings had my head spinning, my heart aching, and honestly, I was on overload with nothing left to give.

I had yelled at my son the day before and we cried. I didn’t want a repeat of that day, and I knew my patience had not been magically restored. I needed rest.

I posted this on my personal Facebook page Friday morning, in desperation of sharing that I was struggling to get some prayer but also to be genuine and honest with those in my influence to show that we all end up burned out when we don’t take care of ourselves.

My Mommy Burnout

I felt relieved sharing. I was encouraged by so many wonderful words, and also the comments by other moms who were experiencing the same thing. It’s community – if we don’t share all aspects of our life, we can easily be seen as perfect or fake. I never want to be seen as either.

So what did I do to bring a turn around? Here are a few simple things I did that I hope can encourage you when Mom Burnout arrives, because it will. We all are guilty of burning the candle at both ends, allowing our to-do list to run our days, over-committing, and losing our patience. But mama, there is hope and restoration.

Get in the Word

I spent the morning reading my Bible, catching up on some devotional material, and journaling. I rarely set the time aside to do more than 15-30 minutes, so this filled a hole in my soul.

Easy Meals

Since it was just my son and I, meal preparation was simple for the day and I tool advantage of it. I blended one of his favorite smoothies up and he had that for breakfast. It took three minutes and he was happy! We had leftovers for lunch and I threw in some chicken breast in the Instant Pot for dinner. It didn’t matter that they were frozen solid – that is the beauty of the Instant Pot!

Declare a Jammie Day

Yep, I didn’t get out of my pajamas and neither did my son. It was glorious and refreshing. I snuggled in my bed all day and my son snuggled on the sofa and watched an overload of Winnie the Pooh, Veggie Tales, and Tarzan. I watched HGTV, read, texted some friends, used a lot of essential oils to support my rocky emotions, and just plain had no agenda. It was perfect.

Be Honest

I shared with friends how I was struggling, but I shared with my son – I was having a rough mommy day and you know what it helped each of us. I told him I needed to rest, I could really use his cooperation, and that tomorrow would be a new day. It is amazing how when we are honest and vulnerable, especially with our kids, how it can be transformational.

And you know what? God brought a new day and new energy to my worn out body the next morning!

So how’s your summer going?  

Are you surviving?  

Are you on the verge?  

Don’t wait until you are completely worn out – please, set aside your own day to “reset” and “restore”. I can see how it works much better to be proactive than wait until you are forced to do it.

I will be evaluating my expectations during this transitional season. I am not Super-Mom and I never want to be mistaken for one. Please know, you are not alone when you struggle and feel like a failure. It’s when we fail that we truly see how much we need a Savior to help restore and redeem our life.

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Sanity Saving Family Road Trip Tips http://www.theconfidentmom.com/07/faith-and-family/great-family-road-trip-tips/ http://www.theconfidentmom.com/07/faith-and-family/great-family-road-trip-tips/#respond Tue, 05 Jul 2016 21:20:40 +0000 http://www.theconfidentmom.com/?p=180402 We just returned from an amazing road trip through Yellowstone, the Grand Tetons, and Salt Lake City to the Young Living Convention and we could not have done it without a few goodies that we took along for the ride. I’ve taken road trips before – but this one was by far one of the better ones, and I attribute it to the supplies which helped keep us sane! I do have to share this amazing photo in the Grand Tetons. We stopped at Jackson Lake Lodge for lunch and were met with this amazing view! Okay, now for the road trip tips! Have a Car Bucket This may seem old […]

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We just returned from an amazing road trip through Yellowstone, the Grand Tetons, and Salt Lake City to the Young Living Convention and we could not have done it without a few goodies that we took along for the ride.

I’ve taken road trips before – but this one was by far one of the better ones, and I attribute it to the supplies which helped keep us sane!

I do have to share this amazing photo in the Grand Tetons. We stopped at Jackson Lake Lodge for lunch and were met with this amazing view!

View at Jackson Lake Lodge

Okay, now for the road trip tips!

Have a Car Bucket

This may seem old hat for some, but we needed a “throw-up bucket” for our trip because my son’s tummy can get a bit queasy. We were thankful we didn’t need it for any of the tummy queasiness, but it worked fabulously for a trash can. We could easily toss things in, empty it out, even rinsing it if things spilled. A true lifesaver!

Activities

Melissa & Doug Activity BookI am still the old fashioned mom who rarely lets her child watch endless movies on the road. Our guy was limited to one movie a day, so that left a lot of time to listen to music, chat, or do activities. Here were a few that kept him busy and happy (which is a big bonus) – Hidden Pictures Discovery Activity ZoneMelissa & Doug Water WOW Coloring Book – Animals, and National Geographic Kids Cool Animals Sticker Book.

Diffuser

I love my essential oils, and diffusing some Stress Away in the car is divine for everyone! I purchased two of these mini diffusers and they worked like a charm and I loved the compact size. They were easy to have out of the way and no spills!

Cooler

Coleman 40 Quart PowerChill(TM) Thermoelectric CoolerWe normally take a portable cooler in the car and have ice in it, but this time we decided to purchase an electric cooler and it was SO MUCH BETTER! We purchased this Coleman 40 Quart PowerChill(TM) Thermoelectric Cooler after my husband did some research and it was one of the best investments. We even were able to use this in our hotel room as well because it has dual adaptors for car outlets and electrical outlets. This saved us money because we were easily able to keep snack items cold and accessible.

Easy Packing

I purchased some new packing accessories before our trip and they were great. I needed a new toiletry bag that kept items upright and also completely closed, but was roomy enough for all my items. I found this Travel Toiletry Organizing Bag met my needs great. I loved that it had wonderful ratings. I used it throughout my trip and am really happy with it. In the months to come we will be doing more traveling and I will need to have a sturdy and durable toiletry bag.

I also purchased some Shacke Pak – 4 Set Packing Cubes on the advice of a friend and these were Shacke Pak - 4 Set Packing Cubes - Travel Organizers with Laundry Bagthe bomb! I loved that I could pack clothes I wouldn’t be needing for the first part of my trip inside the larger cubes and have them set aside in my suitcase. I didn’t have to weed through clothes, it was easy to be organized, and it kept my clothes neat and tidy. I used several smaller cubes for my son’s underwear and socks, which always seem to end up everywhere in his suitcase, so it was a relief when this system worked like magic.

Road trips can often times put FEAR into us moms – but let me just say, these tips were so great! We managed a 10-day road trip and we all still really liked each other at the end of it!

Here we are at Yellowstone, one of my favorite places in the park – the Grand Canyon area.

Us at Yellowstone
Do you have any road trips planned this summer?

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