No More Perfect Moms Week FIVE



 Last week there really wasn’t a lot of conversation, so I am thinking either the topic was not a big one for most, or everyone was really busy and didn’t read!  It’s okay….I totally understand and won’t get my feelings hurt.

This week we are talking about our marriages.  Even if you are not married, I suggest you read the chapter – you just never know what insight and wisdom you may gain to help another friend who might be experiencing a hard time.  Isn’t it great we can be used in so many ways by God?

“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”      Sam Keen

Here is the agenda for this week:

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Week 5:  February 24 – 28, 2014

Monday – watch the video, download the discussion questions for WEEK FIVE  {I wanted a slice of that cake they were eating, it looked really good, especially with a cup of coffee!}

Tuesday – come prepared by having read Chapter Five, join the conversation

Wednesday – check in over at Facebook for a few questions – I will try to post a few through the day, but will be on a flight  {YIPPEEEEEE, can’t even hardly stand it excitement here – to Hawaii…..ahhhhhh, but will do my best – and yes, I will share photos!!}

Thursday – read the blog post on applying what we’ve learned this week; get started reading Chapter 6

Was there something that spoke to you in the video?  

What do you appreciate about your husband?

What have you learned over the years during your marriage?


Please share in the comments and hop over to the Facebook page.   

No More Perfect Moms Week TWO



I loved our first week together – so much conversation on the Facebook page and discovery.  The biggest one – that we all have the same thoughts inside our little heads – buzzing around.  Even though you may have thought you were the only one who had those thoughts, you are not alone.

Does this resonate with anyone?

“I think the word that often describes my day is feeling of inadequacy. I try so hard to do everything…. From cleaning to working out and mostly being mommy and a wife. Yet no matter how hard I try there is not enough time in the day and I always mis-manage my time. I hate the feeling when you have worked so hard on your home all day but feel like you missed playing with the kids. Finding the balance is so hard.”

 We all struggle with those same feelings  :-)

Here is the agenda for this week:


Week 2:  February 3 – 7, 2014

Monday – watch the video, download the discussion questions for WEEK TWO

Tuesday – come prepared by having read Chapter Two, join the conversation

Wednesday – check in over at Facebook for a few questions

Thursday – read the blog post on applying what we’ve learned this week; get started reading Chapter 3

Was there something that spoke to you in the video?  Please share in the comments and hop over to the Facebook page.  What have you enjoyed the most from this study so far?

The Danger of Comparison



We’ve been sharing about the effect comparing ourselves has on our self-esteem, motivation and our perceived reality.  Comparison is like a poison that quickly seeps into other areas, creating dissatisfaction, and discontentment.  

Not too long ago I was going through a very discontent season and God called me out on it, I shared about it here.  I was spent and tired and felt really lost – but when I pushed in to find grace and ask forgiveness, God met me and healed my heart.

When Jill talked about how our high expectations end up fueling these scenes we see played out so perfectly in others’ lives, I saw very clearly how they can be a breeding ground for discontentment with our real lives.  What is worse is that we don’t even know it until it has truly poisoned our thinking and view.  We end up having a distorted perspective and viewpoint, she says this:

“It’s a subtle erosion of our satisfaction.  If we don’t recognize it, the discontentment can turn into disappointment, and then the disappointment can eventually turn into disillusionment.”

We need to keep our perspective clear and not fogged by the lenses we look at daily.  Unless you do not turn on TV, go to the grocery store, a PTA meeting for check Facebook – you are bombarded with what seems perfect.  

Take a step forward and recognize the desire that lies within to compare yourself to others.  When you recognize it and name it, it is a bit easier to try to curb.


Here is the topic for this week from our discussion questions:

Identify one place where you tend to unfairly compare yourself to other moms.  Some  places to consider might include church, moms groups, grocery store, your child’s school, Facebook, mommy blogs, magazines, etc.  Ask God to help you identify when you are unconsciously making comparisons.  When you realize what you are doing, thank God for showing you your unconscious thoughts.  Then thank Him for making YOU the unique mom that you are.

Spillin’ the Beans

Here is where I come clean and answer the above for you.  

So, I struggle with several areas, all at the same time!  You see, I am right now an “older” mom of a toddler.  Most of those who have kids the age of my son, four, are much younger than I.  So perhaps they are in a bit better shape, wear cuter clothes because they are just a bit more “hip” and also have a fresher viewpoint of motherhood than I do.  

I struggle with not wanting to do all the crafty things I may have done with my kids who are much older when they were my son’s age.  I feel like I don’t fit in.  Period.  That is the exact line that has been achy to be released from my heart.

I don’t fit in as a mom of a four year old at 46 {almost 47}.

This is where I need to stop the train and check out what is TRUTH.  The Truth is that God placed this little guy in my life for a specific reason.  I may not know and understand what that reason is {okay, there are many reasons I do know, but don’t understand it all yet!}  I do know and believe there is a much bigger reason and beast that I am trying to conquer with this feeling that I don’t fit it all the time in this season.  Maybe it is to stay uncomfortable so I can help other moms who may be experiencing similar feelings – God doesn’t want us to get too comfortable because that can lead to pride – ouch!  Been guilty of that.

Perhaps being confident is good, but He doesn’t want me to become ‘over-confident’?  That could surely be the case as well.  Whatever the reason, I hope to find out one day, but for now I know I need to recognize when I compare, hold onto the truth, which is – God placed this little boy in my life at just this time because I was perfect for him to have as his mom.  I need to write that down over and over again, to have it embed in my heart and not let the enemies lies seep in.

I ask you, can you do the same???  Write a one sentence TRUTH out that you can hold onto even when you are feeling stuck in the comparison trap?

Get a jumpstart on your reading over the weekend by reading Chapter Two – feel free to share in the community over on the Facebook page and I will be back on Monday with our Week Two schedule.

No More Perfect Moms Week One



It’s finally here, the first day of our new study!!  If you have not invited some friends to join us yet, please do.  There is room for everyone, another great feature of an online book study – no need to provide a huge room and I don’t have to make snacks for you all – {but I would if I could!}

Today is a pretty easy start, Monday’s will always be pretty low key.  I will give you the weeks reading assignment and you get to watch a fun video – who wouldn’t love that?  

I ask that each day as you begin reading or reading the blog post that you would humbly come before The Lord and ask Him to help open your eyes to areas that may be hidden to you, to reveal struggles and hidden issues you may have that could hinder your growth during this study.  I know He will meet you during this intentional time and will push you forward and challenge you!

When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.    - Viktor E. Frankl

So grab a cup of coffee and take it in ladies.


Week 1:  January 27 – 31, 2014

Monday – watch the video, download the discussion questions for WEEK ONE

Tuesday – come prepared by having read Chapter One, join the conversation

Wednesday – check in over at Facebook for a few questions

Thursday – read the blog post on applying what we’ve learned this week; get started reading Chapter 2

Was there something that spoke to you in the video?  Please share in the comments and hop over to say hello and introduce yourself either here or on the Facebook page.

Day in A life of an Oily Mom



Hello to all of you who are visiting for the ‘Day in the Life of an Oiler‘ series which began yesterday over at MyBlessedLife!   We left off yesterday with Denise sharing at Wholesome Mommy – so I am here to start off the rounds for today! 

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I am thrilled to take you through a “typical” day in my life and share  how I use Young Living Essential Oils in our home every single day.  

Since I began a year ago to incorporate essential oils in our home, we have had some incredible results.  I’ve been able to ditch the antidepressants I was on for over 15 years, healed many injuries which occur everyday – including burns and cuts, calmed our house down of those tiring toddler outbursts and emotional anxiety issues, and so much more.

Grab your self a cup of tea (or coffee in my case – with a dash of raw cream) and sit back and enjoy walking through a day in my life.  Please, remember though…..I have used oils for a year, if you are new to using essential oils or have not even started, please do not get overwhelmed with my routine or what I use.  This is a learning process and also one that is personal to everyone’s budget.  You cannot get all the oils you would ever want or need all at once – so make a wish list and keep adding to your collection, a little bit at a time!

A warning – I am authentic and real, you will see me without a shower in the videos and honestly just being ‘off-the-cuff’ so forgive my bed head and my bathrobe!

Morning Routine

I begin my morning early, I am up at 5:30 AM and go out and chug down a huge glass of water as well as a vegetable capsule that is filled with 5 drops of Lemon Essential Oil.  I may take another capsule in the afternoon, or have a cup of tea and add a few drops of Lemon in that – which is really yummy!


This helps kick start my digestive system.  Lemon is a natural energizer, it hydrates, it detoxifies, and it oxygenates the body so it feels revitalized and refreshed – that is how I want to start my day.  I am off to have my devotional time and get myself set for the day.  

When my family begins to get up, we start our breakfast routine which includes NingXia Red, Mineral Essence and Super B’s for me.

NingXia Red® is a powerful antioxidant drink that contains whole Ningxia wolfberry puree—a super blend of blueberry, aronia, cherry, pomegranate, and plum juices, natural stevia extract, grape seed extract, pure vanilla extract, and orange, yuzu, lemon, and tangerine essential oils. Its health benefits include support from head to toe, via a whole body nutrient infusion.

Mineral Essence™ is a balanced, full-spectrum ionic mineral complex enhanced with essential oils.  Since I have been using this to help replenish my magnesium I have slept better, had much higher Red Blood Cells, White Blood Cells and Platelet counts, which were alarmingly low due to my Systemic Lupus.  I love being able to outsmart the doctors with my oily remedies, they didn’t know what else I could do to raise the levels I had – so I showed them!

Super B™ is a comprehensive vitamin complex containing eight essential and energy-boosting B vitamins: B1, B2, B3, B5, B6, B7, B9, and B12. The complete B-vitamin profile in Super B not only assists in maintaining healthy energy levels, but it also supports the nervous system, aids in maintaining normal cardiovascular function, and helps with internal enzyme reactions


Remember, I already warned you of my horrible bed head!

After we get dressed, my son and I have our little ‘oily routine’ which I’ve created to fit the unique needs he has.  He needs some help during his day managing his emotions {don’t we all!!!}, focusing on tasks, monitoring his energy output and keeping anxiety in check.  In addition, we always apply Thieves to keep him healthy.  I have found a little dab a day will do the trick.

I know many have asked what oils they can use on their children, how to apply and what this looks like.  I thought this was a perfect opportunity to share our routine in hopes it might help you create your own.  Remember, little ones like to do things themselves, so if you can put most of your oils in roller bottles, it will help everyone!

Here is what I use in the video:  Thieves (more about Thieves here), Valor (more on Valor here), Grounding, Peace and Calming (more on Peace and Calming here) and also my Special Recipe, which is:

15 drops Cedarwood EO, 15 drops Lavender EO and 15 drops Vetiver EO in about 1 T carrier oil (Grapeseed or Coconut oil) I use an empty bottle, I had an empty Lavender bottle and filled it and put a roller fitment on top.


I have a lot of goodies I use all day long, so I combined them here for you.  They include:  Young Living Thieves Toothpaste, Lip Balm, ART Skin Care System, Joy EO (more on Joy EO here), Progessence Plus, Thieves Foaming Hand Soap and my Alopecia Recipe, which is:  18 drops Rosemary EO, 18 drops Lavender EO, 18 drops Cedarwood EO, 18 drops Thyme EO and enough 100% pure refined Emu Oil to dilute a bit and allow for easy application.  I mixed and placed in an empty Lavender bottle with a roller fitment on it.

Watch out, yes – I really did show you my bald spot – my husband was a bit mortified I did it – but hey, like I said, I am pretty darn real.


I forgot to mention one other item that I use daily in our home and floats between the kitchen counter, bathroom and in my purse, Animal Scents.  I use it for cuts, scrapes, dry skin and even put it on our dog who likes to lick her underside – A LOT!  Animal Scents™ Ointment is blended with Melaleuca alternifolia and myrrh, two of nature’s most powerful essential oils. It is a protective and soothing salve formulated for external use on animals, but we humans love to use it and benefit too!


Mid Day Routine

I take a few other supplements during the day and wanted to mention those, Sulfurzyme, which is a supplement I use to help with my immune system and Life 5, a high potency Probiotoic.


I run my diffuser all day in my home, switching between calming oils, like Peace and Calming, but also as I sit and write or catch up on emails, I need a boost – on this day I chose to use Abundance, which was a new oil I had just received.  It was perfect!  This diffuser is the one you get included with your Premium Starter Kit, I love it and have two of these in our home.


I end up spending quite a lot of time in my laundry room, I am in there every day….funny how that turns out.  So I certainly wanted to share how I use my oils in my laundry room.  You’ll hear me mention Lavender, Purification, Thieves Household Cleaner as well as my favorite dryer balls, Woolzies.

I love having Thieves Household Cleaner right under my sink – I use it to spray down counters, cabinets, the kitchen table, I spray on fruits and vegetables to remove all the toxic chemicals before we eat – it is so versatile. 


I have ventured out to using Essential Oils in recipes too!  I love to experiment and what I enjoy about Young Living 100% Pure Essential Oils is that they can be taken internally.  One of our favorite soups this winter has been a Paleo Thai Chicken Coconut Soup, which uses Lemongrass Essential Oil in the recipe.  { I’ve included below for you. }  Funny enough, I also use Lemongrass to fight off my Tennis Elbow pain when it starts acting up too!


If I have un unexpected issue come up, I find it so helpful that I can either dive into my Essential Oil Pocket Guide to look up a symptom and get ideas on what oils to use, or I can hop over to help monitor conversation on our private Oily Family Room Facebook page.  This guide is so helpful – here I show Deep Relief, Peppermint and Stress Away, all which are a great help for headache relief.  I typically do not get headaches anymore, with my diet changes, oil use and better awareness, but others in my family do, so I am grateful to help them out naturally.


On this particular day we removed all the moldings in our family room and kitchen area, as we were beginning a painting project.  My husband wanted to spray for critters before the new moldings were put back down, and I insisted we forego the chemical bug spray and let me use a mixture of Peppermint EO and water in a spray bottle.  It worked like magic and the house smelled really good and we didn’t have to vacate the premises, which was the best part!


Evening Routine

Our evening routine involves a few more Essential Oils and I use them in a Detox Bath, both myself and for my little guy – I love Lavender, Rosemary and Harmony mixed with Epsom Salt.  I also make a bath salt recipe and will use some of that pre-made mixture and add extra Epsom Salt.


When it is time to settle in for the night, I start the diffuser in my little one’s room.  We alternate between Thieves at night and Peace and Calming.  If he has started a sniffle or sneeze, it is Thieves, otherwise – Peace and Calming is perfect.  I have a total of 6 diffusers in our home, of course two of the Young Living, and also I have managed to add the MIU diffuser, which I love for bedrooms because the light can be turned off and you can determine the output volume and duration – plus the price is very reasonable.  I also have the H2EO Ultrasonic Diffuser, which I also like for the same reasons as the MIU, but it is a bit higher in price.


My bedtime routine involves a few ‘must-have’ oils.  Just before I slip under the covers I roll on some RutaVala, which is great for getting a good nights sleep.  I love that it is small, easy to roll-on and I can use it if I wake in the middle of the night, which I did often and could not go back to sleep.  But for the most part I sleep well and for the entire night now, but it is there in case of an emergency!  I also use Immupower, Exodus II and EndoFlex, putting them on the bottom of my feet and under my big toe.


So, there you have it – a lot of information and A LOT of me!!  I hope you learned a few things and maybe expanded your knowledge of using essential oils.

Are you ready to jump in to this wonderful world of caring for yourself and your family naturally with essential oils?? The time is now! Click here to learn more or contact the person who introduced you to “A Day in the Life of an Oiler” blog series! :)

Next up is Katy  @ Goodness Gathering

Be sure to check out all 18 posts In “A Day In the Life of an Oiler” blogger series, click here.

Paleo Coconut Thai Chicken Soup
Delicious homemade soup perfect for the entire family - fresh vegetables, homemade chicken broth and Lemongrass essential oil add to give it a full flavor everyone will love.
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  1. 1 whole roasting chicken (I use Coleman Organic from Costco)
  2. Sea Salt
  3. Fresh Ground Pepper
  4. Onion
  5. 4 Cups Frozen Stir-Fry veggies, Costco has a great mix
  6. 4 Cups chopped spinach or Kale
  7. 4 drops Young Living Lemongrass essential oil or 4 T lemongrass
  8. 4 T minced ginger - fresh or I use a minced ginger in a jar
  9. 3 cans Coconut Milk
  10. 6 Cups Chicken Broth
  11. 4 T fish sauce
  12. 2 t chili-garlic sauce
  13. 6 T lime juice
  14. 2 bunches green onions sliced
  15. 1/2 C basil, chopped
  16. 1/2 C cilantro, chopped
Roasting Chicken
  1. I like to use my own homemade chicken broth, so when I make this soup I will roast a while chicken in order to have enough meat, as well as use the bones to make my own broth. If you have chicken and other broth to use, skip this step.
  2. Rinse your chicken, salt and pepper and place a quartered onion inside the cavity. Cover in a roasting pan and cook for 45 minutes at 425 degrees, then lower to 325 for another 45 minutes. Check to see that your chicken has cooked through.
  3. Allow chicken to cool, debone the meat, set aside. Place the carcass in just enough water to cover, bring to a boil and then turn down to simmer for 12 hours. This brings out all the good stuff you want to create a wonderful chicken stock! When it is done cooking, strain the bones and excess skin/meat and you have your own homemade broth.
To Make Soup
  1. 1. Place shredded chicken (about 6 cups) in a pot with the chicken broth, stir and add the coconut milk, turning the heat to medium.
  2. 2. Add the frozen veggies, chopped spinach, ginger, fish sauce, chili-garlic sauce, and lemongrass oil and simmer for about 30 minutes.
  3. 3. Add the chopped green onions, basil, cilantro and lime juice just before you are ready to serve.
  4. 4. This makes a fairly large batch - freeze the leftovers and you have a great dinner already made for later!
The Confident Mom
If you have a minute and need a little laugh, take time to watch my Oily Blooper video – it was tricky to get everyone to behave – especially those furry friends of ours!


 *These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am just a mom sharing my experience in order to help others, not a doctor.